How to tell her to trim the bush?

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  1. Peter_North

    Peter_North New Member

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    Hi,

    I would like to know if there is a way to tell a lady that you would like her to trim her bush.

    My wife has always had a bush the size of the Amazone Rainforest. This frankly doesn't turn me on. I always liked to eat pussy and even adored it but lately I just don't feel like doing it to her. I find it soooo exciting and beautiful when a woman has no hair down there.

    I did make a few kind little jokes about it to see how she would react to the thought. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem to be even imaginable for her. She did trim it a LITTLE bit a couple of times but it's still disgusting to see all that hair.

    How can I tell her to take it off without hurting her feelings?

    The other thing, she is way overweight too. I never asked her to loose weight (this would be a huge mistake and I know it) but I would surely appreciate it if she at least made a small effort to stop eating like a pig. But that's another subject and I would tend to say: "Yeah, in my dreams maybe..."

    I'm loosing desire over her. If I'm going to be with her for the next 30 years, I think some things should change...

    Thank you
     
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    Hey Honey, while i have the weedeater out do you want me to take care of that bush for you?:lol

    Maybe some night when things are just right, walk into the bedroom with scissors or razor and tell her you would like to try something. Turn it into something erotic instead of something bad. I like to use one of the razors for trimming with the adjustable depth. Works great. Tell her you want to make it in the shape of a heart or something.
    Good luck.
     
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    Is there a way easier or less painfull than the razor? I don't think she would be able to go to a beautician to have it done. Let's face it, not easy to spread your legs in front of a complete stranger...
     
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    Hey there Peter North!
    I agree with Johnny. Try to make it a sexy event and encourage her to try it.

    Something that you should consider is that she may assume that you want her to look like the girls in a "porno" or playboy, for lack of a better term and dig her heals in. If she calls you on that, tell her that while that may be sexy, you think of her as the woman you love and "want" and seeing her goods adds to the excitement of getting them.

    No woman is more willing to please and do for her man than one who fully trusts him and feels cherished in and out of bed.

    The weight thing is also for another time but boyjoe and I feel very strongly about being the best person we can be and feel people are responsible for staying in shape when possible. Do you look as good as you did in the early days? Maybe you can suggest walks together etc. You can tackle a whole bunch of subjects walking together, even the bush. ;)
     
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    A razor is not painful, if done slowly and meticulously. If you use a trimmer, like you would use on your sideburns, than that doesn't even touch the skin.

    As far as a bikini wax, you can get waxed without spreading everything and trim the "everything else" at home. WAXING is GREAT! And hurts less and less with each trip to the salon. (I personally don't think it hurts at all if you have someone good)
     
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    Are you in shape? If you are working out to look good for her, then I feel you have a right to ask her to start taking better care of herself.

    You can tell her that you want to spend forever with her, but if she is leading such an unhealthy lifestyle something may happen to her healthwise.

    Then start taking walks with her.. help her make better food choices - lead by example.

    Don't ever tell her what to eat - just suggest better alternatives.

    In the end she has to want to lose weight, and become self motivated. All you can do is fan the flame.
     
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    Thanks for the advice!

    About the weight issue. She has never been thin but it's now getting out of proportion. Me, I've always been well proportionned. I haven't changed since I met her. I have tried diets with her (on her advice) to try to encourage her. But it never lasts. She always has reasons to start eating again, like trips, restaurants, special occasions, and she has tons of them. She simply adores food, it's a passion for her. I think she eats right (healthy food) so this is not the issue, she just eats way too much and all the time. Even if you exercise (she does exercise) 3 hours a day, you won't lose weight if you still eat like a pig. Let me remind you that I've never asked her to lose weight because I didn't want to hurt her feelings and self esteem. But again, it's a different matter and will be very complicated and long.

    For the bush, I will try the erotic way. Maybe it will work but I worry that she won't be the type to maintain herself. She would need something done by laser because she's the very lazy type...
     
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    does she shave her legs? I shave my body every day. No ifs ands or buts.
    When you refer to your wife as lazy in these regards, I feel like I am hearing boyjoe talk about his ex wife. If she made an effort for you in the beginning, she should continue to do so. Men and women who let themselves go (without temporary excuse) is a big pet peeve of mine.:yell
     
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    For the bush, I will try the erotic way. Maybe it will work but I worry that she won't be the type to maintain herself. She would need something done by laser because she's the very lazy type...[/QUOTE]

    That is where you come in. You keep it trimmed. Maybe once a month. Different designs. It is fun.
     
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    No, she doesn't shave her legs. She used to have wax jobs but now she's having them done by laser at a beautician. Would be nice if she had the bush done at the same time. She also has hair between the "cheeks". Since I also like to put my tongue there, I would appreciate it if she took care of that too. A lot of work to be done here. I won't give up.;)
     
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    If she is having laser done on the legs than by all means that is the way to go! I wish I could have it ALL lasered off!
     
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    Well, the problem is that it's not the same for the intimate parts. She's a bit too shy to expose those parts to a complete stranger... I can understand, as I wouldn't be able to do it...:eek: Whenever I go to a doctor and have to strip, it's never something I like.
     
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    People who overeat are normally unhappy in some way...

    I know when I am down I will eat far too much......its like an addiction for some, like smoking or drinking booze...

    I have heard it said that food equals love..!!
     
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    Disclaimer: Admittedly I'm a confrontational person. I think that's how people "get the point." That's just how I roll:ugh. sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

    I'm not gonna lie....I'd tell her straight-up. She clearly isn't getting the point. Let her know you're not satisfied with how things are shaping up (or not doing so in either of your cases).

    Regarding the bush: She clearly isn't getting the point, despite your best efforts. I'm not telling you to make demands or ultimatums, but you should let her know how you feel, no bones about it. Stand up for yourself man. Only you can make it happen. It sounds like you've tried being sweet. Move on to the next level if you have to.

    I myself had that problem at one time....there are lots of ways to handle it, depending on your own personality, her personality, and your relationship's status. I made it a joke with my girl because that's how we are. I'd say "I can't find your clit in all this hair beautiful" or after great sex and the "I love you" that I sincerely meant....I'd say "wait I have something stuck in my teeth....oh wait it's one of your pubes" and I'd laugh my ass off, etc. The point is this: there are a TON of ways to handle this. You could joke about it, cajole her, bitch about it, flatter her, tell her how beautiful but she could improve this one thing, tell her how much it would turn you on, insult her, whatever. You know her, so you're the one who can guage that. There are a million ways to make it happen. The problem is if none of them work. If that happens, that's another dilemma altogether.

    Regarding the weight issue: Does she want do die? Diabetes is a huge issue. It takes you apart one limb at a time until it's all over. Does she want that? Does she want you to have to take care of her through limb amputations? Even if that doesn't happen, does she want to endure knee/hip replacements? I would think not. They're expensive and miserable. Ask her. Get fuckin angry. I happen to think a reality check to her is due. I think you're too nice.

    Love is about give and take. You've worked at her suggestion to be sexy for her....why doesn't she work to make herself sexy for you? That's unfair and that's bullshit. You're not being selfish, so why is she?

    But hey....what do I know? I'm just another neanderthal, so take it all with a grain (or 20) of salt.
     
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    The bush issue just goes to show that they can;t please us all. My wife's is nicely trimmed, and I like that but I would like to see it shaved once and also would like to see it natural once too. I guess we all just like some variety now and then. I woudl do the same for her if she wanted a change. Of course, she has NO INTEREST is shaving it for whatever reason.
    As far as teh weight issue goes, that is one that is very difficult requiring lifestyle changes. I live in the south where many people, including young ones outside the metro area have just said to hell with it and eat biscuits, Quarter Pounters and whatever else they want all day with no concern for weight/health issues. I have heard some of them say that 'you should accept them as they are'. BS - marriage/commitment is also the commitment to maintain yourself over the years for each other. Over weightness can and will lead to worse health problems and I'm personally not going to let myself die young and leave her with kids to raise and bills to pay. I sort of have the opposite prblem in my house; she was average to thin, say 135, for her height when we married. After 2 kids and 15 years, she thinned down to 115-120. Well, I love that, but the attention she now gets from other guys is much more intense and believe me she makes sure I know it! I certainly like her having the body and looks of a 20 year old, but it comes with a price. I always said that I would never ask her to do more to stay in shape than I would od mysself, but now I struggle to stay think like she is. I think your wife will have to do it because SHE wants to NOT because YOU want her to, and some just plain don't care. I think if you can stress the healthy aspects of trimming down, she may get the point. Sorry for teh long post, good luck.
     
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    There was a comic named Andrew Dice Clay that had a cute little nursery rhyme about this very topic....

    "Mary, Mary quite contrary. Trim that pussy, it's too damned hairy."
     
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    Thanks guys. I get the point.

    For the Amazone Rainforest issue, I think I'll start by buying her a trimmer. Her birthday is coming soon so it could be funny as one of her gifts. We went on a trip to Mexico recently and sometimes, at the pool or the beach, we could notice her bush coming out of her bathing suit. I would tell her to hide it as it ambarrassed me a lot! I did help her trim it a little bit before leaving for the trip but apparently it wasn't enough. I think I'll also bring that up again.

    For the weight problem, I'll have to bring up the health issue again and insist more. I want to go back to the gym (thing that I hate a lot but I have to stay in shape) so I'll tell her she could encourage me by watching her health (and weight of course...). I really need motivation to go there!:eek:
     
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    Peter

    I take it you have the" body beautful" or else you wouldnt be coming down on your wife about her weight...

    Am i right......yes....no....?

    :)
     
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    Yes I do. I'm 6'1", 190 lbs, no stomach and my own bush is short and well trimmed (not shaved though). I'm not the type to shave my body and legs (I'll leave that to the body builders) so I think it surely would look funny if I only shaved my pubic hair. Besides, I'm not a hairy type of guy (and nothing in the back). Then of course, if she asked for it I would do it in return. But, she never did. I recently heard though that shaving a male body will not be "IN" anymore. Don't know if it's true or not.