How to spice things up

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  1. MrsT1976

    MrsT1976 New Member

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    Guys, I have my own thoughts on this but I know a lot of you are in LTR or marriages and wonder what others do.

    When you have pretty much tried everything out that you want to, fulfilled each others fantasies, tried every position, explored fetishes, pornography, acting out various scenes and all the "norm" for spicing things up, what do you guys do to keep things exciting and maintain it? I know everyone is different but generally?

    Thoughts much appreciated.:ugh
     
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    Just keep it up and keep switching it up... my turn ons and what not have changed since i've been with my girlfriend and as long as you are able to work with each other if or when they do change then you will be happy, that is my 2 cents.
     
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    My wife is an exhibitionist.
    and when we go out with her
    wearing an extremely short skirt
    sans panties, maybe a thong at the most
    it tends to keep me interested and
    at the end of the evening I am ready
    and believe me she is to.:sf
     
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    I've never understood this type of question. The fun little additional activities are the icing on the cake, not the cake. If you need to keep adding icing, the cake is obviously lacking. Good sex is first and foremost about the connection between two people. If that connection is absent, I would recommend seeing a marriage counselor over trying to compensate for a bland, dry cake by continually glopping more icing onto it.
     
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    I'll go along with Bluesy on this one, if your relationship is really good, and the sex is intimate and connected and loving, it doesn't need continual excitement. Sometimes all it takes is the thought of holding her loved one, and feeling her respond the same way as last time (yesterday?) is enough. A little exciting variety can make for good memories, but the decades should be able to pass in the sweet bliss of love and intimate moments shared.

    On the other hand, if the relationship is not so good, or sex is disconnected and mechanical, then excitement in one form or another may be necessary. But even then, it is just papering over the cracks, and the foundations are still unsound.
     
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    We always have a group sex DVD playing. We don't necessarily watch it the whole time,but we enjoy the sounds of sex in the background. We begin with mutual masturbation while watching. Sometimes we watch while having intercourse in the spoon position. We also like doggy while watching, but we both cum real fast in this position. We have a nice toy collection. One of our favorites is our Penthouse Vibrating Golden Egg that my DW inserts in her vagina and then I insert my penis and we have intercourse with it vibrating inside. Really hot!! Another favorite is our Trojan Vibrating Ring. DW says there is nothing like a real penis that vibrates. We also have a rabbit type vibrator(Purple Titan). I love to watch my DW masturbate with this and to watch her cum. We have 3 vibrating dildos 2 jelly and one black rubber. I love to watch these go in and out of her vagina. She will give me a blowjob as she is using a dildo and we fantasize that we are having a threesome. DW uses and an anal toy(Spectragels Vibrating Anal Tool, Anal T, Anal E-Z Bend or Anal Beads) to massage my prostate while she gives me a blowjob. Really intensifies my orgasms. One thing we enjoy is for her to masturbate and just before she cums, I will go down on her and after she cums, we kiss deeply sharing her juices as I put my penis in her and we cum together. We rarely do anal because we prefer other forms of sex. DW is still so tight.
    Rarely do we make it through a complete scene on the DVD without cumming.
     
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