How to re-kindle that passion

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  1. spazgurl26

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    I'm in a new relationship and at first it was great sexually. Now it's gotten where it's a couple times a week. I can't handle that...I need it more but he says I never initiate it...but it seems when I do it just doesn't happen. He also tends to take care of "business" himself so that cuts me out as well. So how can I go about showing that I want it? I'm not sure what to do to show that I want it now. Guess I need some tips in that department!
     
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    when you DO initiate it...what do you to?
     
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    Have you tried asking him what you need todo to get him ready when you initiate?
    Communication.
     
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    I remember when my relationship was new there was a lot of intimacy that didn't lead to sex. kissing hand holding, snuggling, massages, all was really foreplay for whenever we did get around to sex. Are you doing these things?
     
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    We snuggle a lot. It doesn't lead up to sex. We do kiss a lot..it doesn't lead up to sex either. For me initiating it is just touching and trying to get him in the mood. He's not a romantic and isn't really into foreplay. He's more a lets do it and that's it.
     
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    so how does he initiate with you? You really need to talk to him...outside of the bedroom.
     
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    how bout starting the "get down to business" part and slow it down once he's really horny...
    sometimes i give my hubby a bj out of no where and stop just before he cums... then he's all over me until i do make him cum.
     
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    I was gonna say that too. Just start sucking him.
     
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    did you say "just start sucking on him"?
    God i love this forum.....
     
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    :D yes I did.

    It works for me..
     
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    well, you know what they say.." a hard woman is good to cum on" ...errr uh " a good man is hard when....uh.....i'm sorry, what did you say??....
     
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    I would suggest that if he's not romantic and isn't into much more than intercourse, then sex isn't going to ever be much good! Being a big romantic myself, the lead-up is the best part, and if my wife starts that lead-up then so much the better. But with this particular man, then don't expect sex to be terribly good, unless you can get him to enjoy the journey more. Communication is also a problem: less masturbation and more love-making is what the OP is after.