How to make wife horny

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  1. smooth69

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    ladies I’ve been married about 20 years , my wife’s sexual desire has really reduced
    What do you recommend I do to turn her on and get her horny sometimes ? I’m strong , clean and shaven ready for anything and maybe get a hand job once in a while
    Need more suggestions please !
     
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    First, you should talk to her and let your feelings be known to her. Take her out and wine and dine her like when you were dating. Women are very emotional creatures and like the hugging, cuddling and being treated like a lady thing.... Only other thing I could suggest is that somebody else is satisfying her pretty good on the side.
     
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    If some event or a milestone in her life reduced it, maybe hormones? I am no doctor, just throwing a suggestion in there.

    A family event totally killed a co-worker's wife's drive, not has has 2 girlfriends, LEFT and RIGHt hands. and maybe it will never come back.

    Health of the relationship, if she feels valued, but not like she has total control also.
     
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    If those boxes are ticked, the little things that turn a woman on I guess.
    It doesn't have to be outright sexual things, but sometimes a little sneaky message how you want her,
    plant the idea in her mind that maybe .... something special and intimate is something to consider.

    Ladies from SF will be better at helping you here LOL
     
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    Join the millions of other men that don't have a sex life at home. Jeez I wonder why the divorce rate is 50% or better?
     
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    May I suggest massive bong rips and the A side of Rush 2112?
     
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    Suggested that to wife yesterday:p
     
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    Not Rush just the bong
     
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    Any given Cream album?
     
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    Or Clapton Behind the Sun
    I love that one smoked up
     
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    Nothing like sex while high, makes your cock feel like a cum filled fire hose! I nut super hard when high.
     
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    Have you talked to her in a nonconfrontational way and without blaming her? Could be a multitude of things.
     
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    Clean the house. Vacuum, pick up, clean the kitchen, buy her something that she knows you hate buying, like flowers. Make her a dinner that shows you made an effort. Get her a blanket for the couch and rub her feet.
    We think that women should be able to just turn it on but they are more complicated. Sometimes, even the wife needs to be seduced.
     
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    My wife at age 53 goes thru these same things from time to time. I can usually take her out for a romantic night of dinner and dancing with some serious flirting during the evening. Once we get back home, I'll put on some slow music, kiss her neck, touch her inside thigh and squeeze her ass while I'm holding her. Usually by then she's leading me to the bedroom. She's had a hysterectomy a few years ago which really diminished her sex drive and she doesn't soak her panties in wetness anymore like she used to but when I really pour it on like that, she can't help herself and she ends up fucking my brains out!
     
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    She could be bored. Next time you get the opportunity, make sex more exciting. Sweep her off her feet!
     
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    massage
     
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    Ingredients to horny;

    1. Foot rub
    2. Coconut oil massage
    3. Cannabis
    4. Dinner
    5. Butt plug

    Not in that order.
     
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    I felt like coming back to stress on what I've said.

    So many think a female sexuality is a lot about the brain. But sex is so often repetitive. In general, the way to stimulate a muscle is by changing the way you use it, by challenging it. It's no different for the brain.

    If you've been repetitive and predictable about sex, with the years, it's difficult to get excited about it and the promise of an orgasm isn't enough to get going.
     
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    This is one reason that I think married couples should step out of the box once in a while and either bring in an additional person(s) or the wife be allowed to go on a "date". I know that after each and every one of our MFMs my wife was so horny for several weeks and was always ready to go. By sharing her with another man/woman we both benefitted from allowing her being with others.
     
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    So true, throw a rim job in the mix unannounced every now and then. She’ll thank you for it later...... or slap you, nah! She’ll love it.