How to last longer tips

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  1. shadow

    shadow New Member

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    Hey sorry I'm new here so I have no clue if this has been done before although I'm sure it has. Anyways like many men I find it hard sometimes not to get too excited and ejaculate too early but so far it hasn’t worked, I always think to myself ok just don’t think about it and do it but as soon as I enter i just cant help but get too excited so there's where the problem is. A friend told me I can hold it back, that has to do with some muscles where the balls are but I still can't figure that one out cause it don’t work, so anyone got any good tips to last longer and not get too excited? Perhaps have a masturbation session before I meet my girlfriend? lol a lil' help here people.
     
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    i posted that exact same problem. i got told that if you wanted 2 last longer... once you enter you just stay in her. so you dont climax too quick. and i tried that with my gf and it works. really it does. coz i usualy come quick. but when i do that it doesnt make me climax fast. another thing keep changing positions that really works too! coz i went on 4 ages bradaa so yeah... =) try that.
     
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    haha thanks, I'll try that today hopefully or whenever and see if it works.
     
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    Practicing by yourself is not a silly idea. Pick a day/night when you are have a lot of time to yourself, get some porn/erotica of you choice, and practice bring yourself close to climax without cumming. You can have a wank and just stop as close as you can to climaxing without cumming. Wait a bit for you to settle down again, then start the cycle again - as often as you see fit. I can even give myself small orgasms without cumming this way. One additional thing you can do to practice not cumming is called the "pinch" technique. To do this hold the meatus of your cock (the knobby bit at the end :brow) between your thumb and two fingers - put your thumb on top of your cock at the base of the meatus, and your index and middle finger underneath your cock with one finger on your meatus and the other on the stem of your cock. The idea is to pinch firmly (but obviously not so that it brings tears to your eyes :down ) and you should be able to even reduce a raging hardon to a semi-soft/flaccid cock in a matter of seconds. This way you can practice making yourself hard, almost reaching climax, then controlling with the pinch technique. It's a good way of learning to control your physiological responses during sex. Incidentally, if you do this a couple times you do end up have one almighty orgasm when you do eventually cum.

    You can of course use the pinch technique during foreplay, and you can even withdraw during sex to do it - but this is psychologically harder (no pun intended :eyes ) when you have some gorgous naked person being all sexy right next to you.

    The "once inside, stay inside" hint above is a good one. My partner actually likes small but vigorous thrusting right at the extent of full pentration - it means that my pelvis is grinding into her clitoris, you see - so this is fun for her and minimises the "in and out" movements that make me cum faster than jack-rabbit. The other thing I find useful is for her to go on top, which does the same thing. Ooh, ooh! And the other approach is to lick and finger-fuck her for several hours/days before you actually get into the pentration bit of sex - at that point she's screaming "oh yes! Oh, YES!" and no longer cares how quickly you climax.
     
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    haha nice essay there.

    Today was one hell of a day, before she came over I had a wank to some porns, I thought maybe that way i can last longer... so she comes over later and we are having sex, I cum real fast and was really pissed off... took a while to get my next erection and that one didn't last long either which was starting to stress me out lol... then for the third one I lasted at least 6/7 minutes which was the best one so far. What I did is while I'm in her I didn't go in out but went round while I was inside her if that makes sense, drove her crazy, I have a huge scar on my back at the moment from her nails and huge bite on my neck... I did it with her legs over my shoulder then normal missionary (spelling?) position and then was trying to turn her around for a doggystyle but was kinda not sure if she would want to cause we aint done it yet so instead I carried her and switched around so she was on top, that was great but made me cum quiet fast and a huge climax cause I was touching her bum and she was in control... anyways good tips I'll try them next time.

    Anyone does doggystyle in here, do girls usually enjoy it or find it disrespectful in any way? I really want to do that one next time, I'm bored of the me on top position and kind of feel bad telling her that, might have to just turn her around next time and do it.
     
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    Shadow, to answer your question regarding having sex 'doggystyle'...as a female who is very sexually active, this is my very favorite position. It allows the woman to be dominated and penetrated very deeply. Since the man does not have to hold himself up with his hands/arms, it leaves them free to fondle, touch, pinch, etc...I would not say that this is a 'disrespectful' position in anyway...but all of us women do have our preferences in position, so why not just ask?
     
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    ^^ fair enough, I should ask her and I have a feeling she'll be cool with it, after all sex is cool to try new things. Only problem is I can see myself coming too early if I did doggystyle cause just the thought of it turns me on like hell so doing it and knowing I'm in control and holding her bum will just make me explode lol... I'll see how it goes.
     
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    I know exactly what you mean! We usually save doggy style till the end of our lovemaking sessions because I tend to cum pretty quickly in this position. Holding my wife's hips and looking down at her sexy round butt cheeks as I thrust really gets me off fast.
     
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