I have been on a few dates with a 36 year old woman. The first kiss was kind of a mash up of lips, and I became initially concerned, as I havent really experienced such a mash up outside of one other person. Our last date, yesterday, I went for a kiss at the end of the date, and this woman and I are not nearly on the same page for kissing technique. I couldn't believe how different we were, and it was a huge turn off. To explain, just imagine your partner quickly wagging their tongue back and forth from side to side over and over. At first I was thinking she may start that way, but once i tried to massage her tongue, she would take the hint, and reciprocate, but no, as I tried to reign her in, and slow her down, I felt her continually race her tongue from side to side like a dog wagging it's tail. I am amazed she kisses this way at this age, and I fear if she kisses this way, she may have a different style in the bedroom. I'm not excited about teaching a 36 year old woman how to kiss. How can I do this? Is this recoverable? Will a 36 year old adult change her style for me? So far she seems like a nice person, and we get along, but I get the feeling she may be lacking in intimate experience. She was engaged years ago for a brief time, so I assume she isn't a virgin. But after this kiss, I have to question how she made it to 36 like this. Anyone ever deal with someone such as this, and if so, what did you do? Exactly how did you say it, to get her to become a better kisser? Women, feel free to offer input. Everyone, please note I am looking for actual ways to handle this situation, not 'theoretical', ...."Just talk to her". What was said, and/or how did you bring up the conversation? Most women I have kissed have been on the same page as me, so I havent had to 'teach'. The one thing I have noticed over the years, is that if a woman and I kiss differently, they never adapt to my style as I would think through make out sessions. They kind of do their thing, tongue flailing.... hahah. ugh. A conversation must occur, but how do you tell someone who has been making out for 20 years that... they need adjustments?