How to go longer, women please read this too

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  1. Newguy

    Newguy New Member

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    Sooo..... I kind of have 2 questions here.

    1.) How the hell can I go longer during sex? I can last forever during oral, but as soon as I start to have sex with my girlfriend I cum instantly - like within 15 seconds :lol . I've been with this girl for over 5 years, and I have NEVER been able to control my orgasm when I have sex with her. I can only count a total of 10 times or so, that I have been able to actually start banging her, and control myself not to come. If I can get past that initial point of not wanting to come INSTANTLY, I think I'd be good. But she just feels so damn good, that I just bust as soon as I start to do her. I've tried many things, like jerking off before I do her, but that is cheating. I want to be able last long on round 1. I try to take my mind off of the actual sex thing, but I can't seem to do that. I don't know what I did on those 10 or so occasions where I was able to last for as long as I want, but I want to be able to do that EVERY time. I get just as turned on when she gives me head, but I don't come instantly from that (although I used to, but I can ALWAYS control it now). It's something about vagina that REALLY turns me on. Even if I watch porn or something, as soon as the guy starts banging the girl I start to feel like coming. It's just actual intercourse that makes me go. HOW CAN I STOP THIS???? I've read many suggestions, but none seem to work, except for have her make me come first and then do her, but I don't want to do that. I want to be able to go for longer then 10 seconds on those spontaneous occasions. Is there anybody that knows how to fix this.

    2.) Ladies, what do you think about guys that do what I do? You know the good old 2 pump chumps:) . That's what I am. But honestly, maybe you never had a guy that came as fast as I do, but if you did what were your thoughts? Don't get me wrong, I do EVERYTHING ELSE I CAN to please her. Even after the 10 seconds of sex, I try very hard to keep her in the mood until I'm hard again, then I bang her again (for much longer though). Do us 2 pump chumps really suck or what? Do you laugh at guys like me? Seriously this is pathetic, I'm 25 and I suck at sex.

    I love being able to be anonymous on the internet, cause I can't talk to any of my friends about this in real life. My girlfriend does know that I'm trying to fix this, after 5 years of going out I JUST started to talk about this with her, but even though it's out in the open between us, her vagina still makes me cum in 10 seconds:eyes .
     
  2. Rose

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    You said you don't want to masturbate before intercourse, because 'that's cheating'. But seriously, many guys have to do that. It's not something you should feel ashamed about. I would imagine that in time, you will be able to forego the masturbation, but I see no reason to eliminate that as a viable option. Especially if being able to last long on the first go-round with your girlfriend is important to you (and her).
     
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    You're a funny guy!

    I'd say work on those PC muscles; do kegels/reverse kegels, make these muscles stronger, so you can have more control.

    I remember when i was younger and had sex for the first times, i would think, the instant i entered her/them: "Oh shit, i'm fucking her, i'm FUCKING HER!!", and then BAM! HAHA!!!

    If you're "arousing level" is gettings too high too fast, if you're kind of "impress" by this, tell yourself that it's no big deal; in order to get rid of this, not only do you have to work on your dick, you also have to work on your inner self as well... it all starts in your mind.
     
  4. MikeDog

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    Have you tried those delay type condoms? They are designed to desensitize you. I agree with Rose nothing wrong with JO an hour before.
     
  5. SexyScorp

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    You could try thinking of something
    inanely boring....like....

    paint drying
    standing in a line

    or

    football...

    :)
     
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    :rofl - now THAT'S gonna open up a can of testosterone worms! :rofl
     
  7. Thorn

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    Did you mean gridiron (U.S.) or soccer? NFL football would bore me but not soccer! :)
     
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    Soccer is much more boring to me than NFL football, which I find boring as well. I greatly prefer the college game (Go Gators) but I also enjoy Rugby and Aussie Rules Football.

    As for the original poster, there are therapies that you can read about to make you last longer. Do a google search and you will find them. In the meantime, I would guess most men have dealt with this in the past, whether they admit it or not, so you are not alone. Masturbation beforehand will definitely help you and is definitely "not cheating".
     
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    And there's both kinds of rugby - league and union - all referred to as "footy" haha
     
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    MASTURBATE BEFORE HAND ( EXCUSE THE PUNN LOL ) for those that are greatly sensative first time round , masturbation works wonders, as long as you can get up and go for a second time :)
     
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    (Trust the men to turn this into a talk about football.... :eyes )

    One guy said to me he thinks about dead puppies to last longer :lol I think he was joking.
     
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    When I think about dead puppies, I also think about dead pussies and then remember the really bad ones and even those make my cock hard again and off I go.
     
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    Actually you sound as if you're doing pretty good if you can last longer in round two. You said you are doing other sexual things to please her, so don't keep saying you suck at sex. Guys who suck at sex are the ones who care only about their own pleasure. She knows you'll be back with more endurance after the first go. Believe me, you'll eventually slow down for the first fuck; be careful what you wish for.;)
     
  14. Newguy

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    Yup, that's exactly it. Except I've been thinking the same "Oh shit, I'm fucking her..." thing for the past 5 years with the same girl, and I still can't consider it no big deal. She definatley turns me on a lot.

    But, thanks everyone for the replys. I was just kind of wondering about all other tips and tricks to go longer. We don't use condoms, thinking of boring stuff like football:mad doesn't work, and I've heard that that PC muscle thing doesn't reallly help actual control of an orgasm. It seems most people here don't seem to think that Jerkin it before I bang her is 'cheating', but I want to be able to go for at least like 2 to 5 minutes on the first round. Just in case we have those spur of the moment times (cars, bathrooms, etc..). There's no foreplay those times, and there's no time for round 2, so it's 15 seconds of sex during those times :ugh .
     
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    hmmm, well, wear a condom? i know i can't come nearly as fast when i wear one.. you can't feel as much.. now i'm not sure how this works, i saw it on some sex talk show, you can get an extender and put it on the tip of your penis in a condom and i'm guessing that would make it so you can't feel as much when you're having sex.. but i'm guessing that is cheating if you think jerking it is cheating.. well, what i do if i want to last longer is to get my mind off it or to go a little slower. just put your mind on something that will kill the mood for you, and see if you can last longer without killing the whole thing.. i dunno, i can't really help :-\
     
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    Yeah Mike, I tried one of those delay condoms awhile back. DAMN I was amazed!!! I went from a 5 minute guy to about 15 or so. Great recommendation
     
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    I feel you, man.

    There's nothing you can do about it if you're not inclined to work on yourself and/or adjust things to your "problem". I mean, well, having a quicky with no foreplay should be out of question, for example...

    And, no, kegels wont do shit for anyone if one's mind/body gets out of control when having sex; but, as i told you, working on your dick and yourself at the same time will do wonders. It takes time, but if you never start, you'll never overcome that "issue" of yours. Take it from a man who has been there, and got rid of it.
     
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    I agree burton, condom makes me go much longer too.
     
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    the easiest way to this is heavy masturbation. It will help by making you less sensitive, i usually go for 20-45 min on my first time with no condom, when i use a condom its hopeless. It will take time but it work quite well
     
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    Most "Stay Hard , Last Longer" creams ae benacane based & arent good for this purpose IMO , try condoms , if one doesnt work try two . There are brands such as Trogan Prolong that are especially made for this purpose >:]

    As for question 2 ..... I'm male & cant help ya there LoL