how to get her to orgasm

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  1. Gearhead

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    So this is the thing my friend (we've had sex before but its been a while) tells me she's never had an orgasm before nothing she's done vaginally or clitorally has gotten her to cum and she was asking me what I though I'm baffled ..any ideas? You guys and girls seem to know a bit so I wanted to ask

    Thanks
    Rob
     
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    There is another thread happening right now on this very subject.
    Suggest you check out the responses there.
     
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    A few full stops and commas would make it possible to read and understand what you wrote (I gave up).
     
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    Try this: get her wet with foreplay, then slide one or two fingers in palm up and move them in a come hither motion at a medium speed. While doing this expose her clit and seal your lips around it pushing slightly against her pubic bone. This will cause her clit to pop up. Then flick your tounge over it up and down, side to side, swirl it, trace the alphabet etc. Keep doing this and sooner or later (usually about 10 - 15 min), she will say "i feel like i gotta pee", this means she's ready to cum. Tell her to relax and keep going as long as it takes. The combination of the g-spot stimulation and clit stim. should do the trick.
     
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    How do you get a girl to orgasm who's never had one before?

    That easier for you?
     
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    ...or give her a prada magazine
     
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    ...and a loaded credit card, just to be extra sure.
     
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    ..and put up that curtain rail she's been begging you to do for years, this will achieve multiple orgasms
     
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    Is it bad that this got me hot and bothered? Sorry off topic... I'm going to go look at porn now.
     
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    doesnt your man do that for you rfyl? if not, just ask him to...then you'll be making porn instead of watching it...:D
     
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    It's not up for us men to get a girl to orgasm. We can try and we all have a few tricks, some have more tricks than others, but it's not up to us.

    Honestly step one: she sets aside some space and time to masturbate herself to orgasm to work out how it goes, and after a few of those the two of you can take it from there.

    I've only ever done it once first-time for a woman who never had one before. She curled up in a little ball which surprised me, until I realised it was her first time! But normally without some masturbation prior to a partner, it's a big step.
     
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    You will get loads of suggestions here but get her involved. Ask her to provide 'feedback' as you are working with her. Telling you where she feels it most sensitive.

    Try this.......

    Forget about yourself and focus on her only. Both get relaxed and allow plenty of time - a couple of hours to simply work on her. Make sure that she becomes relaxed and does tell you when you hit a sensitive spot. You are working blind, but she should have an idea of what feels best. If she is comfortable with oral sex, you have something else to work with. From my experience, the soft pad inside the vagina facing up is sensitive and in my wife is her G-spot - I think this will be different in different women. Don't be too rough on her. Insert one finger first to make sure she is wet and beginning to stretch gently, then enter a couple of fingers pressing up onto that pad. Massage it with your fingers, checking for her reaction. Ask her if it feels good, ask her if you should move to a different location. My wife will whisper to me, 'lower', or 'just there, that's nice' when I am working with her. Working on her clitoris again ask her to tell you how it feels. Is it the right spot or should you shift your action slightly lower? My wife seems to find the spot immediately beneath her clitoris more sensitive and I can feel a vein there, running from here clitoris towards the vagina entrance. Use your tongue under the clitoris. Listen for her reaction - her breathing, what she is telling you. And just continue this as long as she is relaxed, lubricated and enjoying it.

    As far as men are concerned, we don't need that much work. Usually 3 little words - 'want a handjob?' - does it for me!

    Good luck.
     
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    Foreplay, is the key to success. If there isn't enough foreplay then forget it. I can play with a woman all day and night if she wants, wait until she's orgasm'd out before i even think about me.

    But the prada magazine is a lot less hastle, wish I'd got that one in first.
     
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    He had but I have only orgasmed that way once. I was laying on my stomach with a sex wedge under my pelvis he was doing the "come here" motion but fingers upside down. When I came there was a lot of pressure on my clit from the wedge, it was more of a clitoral orgasm than from the g spot. But I have made some porn ;) just can't figure out how to post the vids...

    Sorry off topic! I'm so bad about that....
     
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    I would say 33stack is spot on... That got me all warmed up.
     
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    Awesome results can be achieved doing the G-spot without doing the clit as well, same thing except I pressed just above the pubic bone. This increases the sensations on the G-spot when things are wet and hot.
    One thing that surprised the heck out of me once is instead of the "ceiling" against the G-spot, I did down at the bottom. My thumb worked best for this one for pressure, control, speed and sustaining the pleasure.
    All women are different, so this one was squirming, vocal and gushing a lot with each orgasm, several. Just another technique worth trying.
     
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    What has always worked best for me was taking my two fingers on either side of the g spot. Moving them back and forth. A few minutes of that she orgasms like a mad woman.
     
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    This I agree with. Honestly, most guys have learnt to orgasm by themselves well before they get near a naked woman. Why should it be any different for women?

    Also I believe to focus on "giving" a woman her first orgasm will only add pressure for both parties, lessening the likelihood of it happening.

    She needs to go off by herself and in her own time find out what works for her and then come back and teach you.
     
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    Ok so a little update, we fooled around the other night and she was definitely making all the right sounds and movements lol she let out this like porn star moan and I asked if she had cum, she replied "I'm not sure what I'm looking for" lol I thought it would be pretty simple to know what it is I'm guessing she has not yet and she said she needs a man there dildos don't do it for her and she doesn't like playing with herself
     
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    I personally don't like vibrators and it was about two years after I'd learnt to cum that I started using my bare fingers. The tool I initially used was the rough lid of a roll-on deodorant bottle that I had way back then. I'm too sensitive now to even go near myself with one now.

    After years of being orgasmic, I now can cum so easily that I feel like a freak but I remember back to my teenage days when my legs had to be in this exact position, I needed this exact amount of stimulation, and so on.

    I think the fact she doesn't like playing with herself a little concerning, as it sounds like she may not fully accept herself "down there". If so, she may have difficulty truly letting go with partners.