How to find girls that want or would be interested in casual sex?

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  1. deathstar24

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    Ok, I'm 19, 5'11, fit, 175lbs. Nice and respectful, and i love eating and fingering girls. Definetly not a creep and decently good looking with a nice smile.

    I've been wanting to meet up with a girl for casual sex for a while and tried Craigslist and a bunch of apps, but no luck no matter how I word it or try. I get replies from women but they almost always flake out for no reason in the middle of talking to them....

    So, I was wondering SF folks, where should I look for casual sex? Do girls meet with guys just for sex? Or do they need a date and then sex?

    I'm not super confident and never was a really social person so help on how to be better at finding girls would be nice. Like to have fun with, but not get in a relationship with.

    I'm not super picky on looks as long as she isn't super overweight(i like curvy girls) or completely unattractive.
     
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    What is wrong with a relationship?
     
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    Have you tried social events?
     
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    Lizzie73: I'm just not looking for a relationship at this time. I want to have some fun in the mean time.

    AGFUNK: what kind of social events? Like concerts?
     
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    Concerts, get togethers, places where there's a lot of people. Try asking your friends if they know anyone.
     
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    How thick is your w...........allet?
    Otherwise AMX, Master and Visa will do it for you too ;)
     
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    Join a swingers site.although that maybe more of a couples thing.. There are single men too tho . And social events there as well
     
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    I've asked my friends but none of them know. I'm not the best at social gatherings, idk why I just don't click with people, and when i do they always have a boyfriend.

    Plus there's never any parties around here!
    But let's say I did meet a girl, what eould i say... and how would I know she's one of the kinds that would be interested in sex? Or do girls like that exist?
     
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    Usual question; how does a shy guy meet a girl for casual sex?
    Sadly the real answer is you can't because those girls usually only go for the comfident bad ass dudes.
    Dude just settle for an average nice girl and have a relationship then sex will come. Just avoid pregnancy and permancy until you have sampled of few ;)
    Forget the casual one night stand stud stuff until/unless you gain self confidence.
     
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    Isn't there an app? Tinder or something?
     
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    Yeah there's Tinder but hardly ANY girl is on there to be anything more than a friend. And I had no luck.

    I can be pretty confident I just don't like going out of my way to go somewhere to sir there alone and look creepy and try talking to girls, I need the guy from "crazy, stupid, love" lol

    Ok one more question, do guys really go to bars and walk up, buy a girl a drink then talk a little and take her home for a one night stand? Cuz I've heard that all that is was movie crap for the most part...Is there some way to have casual sex even if I am confident?
     
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    It depends on the woman. The only reason I met up with guys at your age was to fuck. I didn't care about anything else. Of course I've been told that I'm an odd ball out.
     
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    Exactly right, there are girls out there that will casual fuck but they are the hunters and the dude the prey.
    You got to be lucky, in the right place, the right time, she in that right mood and attracted to something about you.
    Mostly women notice physique, engaging smile, confident eye contact which suggest the dude knows his attraction and can deliver the goods.
    Extremely rarely there will be an alpha female who will seek someone like you describe yourself to play with as a slave boy and a virgin one is a prize in that scenario.
     
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    It would just be nice if I could be like every other guy who finds a girl no problem and can pick them up, even tho I'm much less shy and a better guy. I just don't get women at all
     
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    So be frank and examine what is missing. Look at yourself in the mirror, is your smile genuine, can you hold eye contact and convey interest, what is your body language telling?
    If all seem right then perhaps you aren't able to close the sale.
    Right words with no cliches but always a ready smile or chuckle even in the face of rejection.
    A devil may care attitude is a strong attractant.
    Try to make yourself different rather than the same as others but at the same time instrad of envy learn from those that succeed. They have or are using some technique that you are not. Observe, learn and modify to best suit your personality.
     
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    I wish it were that simple. Everything related to girls I've had to learn on the Internet or by talking to friends but I don't really have much I can ask that if haven't already. I try to be as confident as I can but girls never give me a chance or when they do they f*ck me over bad. It would be a lot easier to observe and learn if I knew anyone that could help, but I don't.
    Thanks everybody so far tho
     
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    There, right there you mentioned the real problem!!!
    Work on that and it will work out.
    Secondly, can't is not in my dictionary so why is it in yours?
     
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    How am I supposed to work on it if I've been trying for years? I don't think you get it. I've tried EVERYTHING and still can't get girls, I tried being a confident jerk type and my normal nice guy self but can't get anywhere because I know few girls.

    I need to know WHERE to go much much more then how to talk to them
     
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    You got a sister, female cousin or female friend?
    Talk to them about it.