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Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by *Kiss Me*, Jul 19, 2005.

  1. *Kiss Me*

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    I find lately that I have this irrepressable sexual attraction towards women. I can't help but stare at their bodies, and fantasize about them. I love my fiance dearly, and he has been supportive of me and understanding. But I find that during foreplay, the only way I get really wet and excited is when I'm fantasizing about women or watching girl on girl porn.

    My fiance has told me to go and experiment, and I'd really like to, but I can't really say I know how to go about it. Where or how to meet women is my biggest problem, and developing something more than a casual sexual relationship too.

    Any help or advice would be appreciated.
     
  2. Thorn

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    To meet the right girl you might have to play the field just as if you were looking for a man. Or you could use an internet dating/sex site. Of course once you have a sexual encounter with a woman it won't be a fantasy any longer but the real deal. You may find that you love it or you may want to go back to just fantasizing about it again. ??? This may not be necessary but what if he watched you and a woman during sex. This way it would bring him into it and assure him that he is not left out completely. (just a thought) Of course if you knew he was watching you may not feel free enough to let yourself go completely with the other woman. :brow
     
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    Do you dance? Go to a club and ask a woman who you find attractive to dance. Then simply ask her (nicely) if she has ever been interested in women? If not ask another.

    The hardest part of finding a woman to "experiment" with is getting past your natural fear of rejection.
     
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    Thank you Thorn and kbate, you both present valid suggestions. And I appreciate your feedback. I will take both your suggestions into consideration, and truthfully, I do fear rejection (especially by a woman).
     
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    i am going though the same thing i am trying to become a lesbian too but it is going to be much more harder for me because i am a guy and lesbain are all sexiest.
    but me thinks your best bet would be to go to one of those dating services, if you want a fling. you will have a lot of control of how things work out. try match.com. and maybe try to get with a women that lives far away from you so it will be easier to loose her, or maybe a female prison.

    if you want something like a relationship i think you would be better off with the real world first.
     
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    It's going to be more difficult for him because he has his head up his ass.......just look at his avatar, that is a self portrait from his webcam.
     
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    it smells in here
     
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    It smells everywhere, just a little shittier in some places.
     
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    what columbus17 was talking about, despite the shitty smell it still smells better then new jersey.
     

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    LOL
     
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    :( it is not funny jersey really does stink, and every one makes fun of us for it.:puke
    and for some funny reason the real pine trees dont work as well as the ones you put into your car. :ugh
     
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    Yeah I know. I have had the same but most of the people I know now know that I am bisexual so they have no problems with it. But approaching a girl about it is near impossible, I find that at least.
     
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    Guess the best help or advice I can give, if you truly are into trying it.

    First off you could start with a friend, that you've known for awhile and had idea's of doing it with.
    If you know for sure that she's open minded and willing to talk, then you two go out to a club, or better yet have her over by your place.

    After all the regular conversation is over and you feel comfortable, just ask, run the idea by her.
    Ask her what her thoughts are on that subject, and if her reply is positive in that direction then continue.
    Let her know what you wrote in this post. Who knows maybe she'll have those same ideas as you?
    You'll never know unless you try, right? If things start looking good? Have a DVD of the girl girl stuff handy to watch together, could be a major plus to get going with.

    If you don't want to go that route, the next thing I'd say try the ad's on the web.
    Like ... matchdoctor.com .... adultfriendfinders.com .... or yahoo personals.
    Check out those kind of sites, there are a ton of em.
    Most of those places even give you connections that are local, by where you live.
    I know yahoo does for sure.

    Hope I helped some ...:)
     
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    A former friend of mine brought it up with me and after time I gave in. I'll go with Kbate and say go to some clubs try dancing with a few girls and ask them. Being with another women can be a hang up in the beginning but relax and enjoy the sex. Its alot of fun if your honest with yourself and understand who you are. I'm not going to switch to women but I'll certainly enjoy their company from time to time.