How open are you with your partner

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  1. jt _couple2012

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    do you tell her/him everything about your sexuality? fantasies and desires? Do you worry about being misunderstood?
     
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    With my current (and hopefully lasting into the indefinite future) partner there is a Full Disclosure agreement. She and I have (or do) share all those things with one another. Our sexuality and preferences. Our fantasies. Our desires. What "works" for us and what doesn't. There was a great fear of being misunderstood - especially at first - but now it has become a natural part of our relationship. We have (in the short time we've been an official, committed, dedicated couple) reached a level of trust and honesty that I've never had before.
     
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    I like that 3XL. I think this is the way it should be. Good luck to both of u
     
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    I pretty much do tell my wife about my fantasies but there are still things I keep to myself. We have discussed a lot about her being with another guy or a couple and she has understood that it has nothing to do about me being with another woman.
     
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    Yes, I think I am more open with her, we talk about anything
     
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    Yes, but this is only recent. I've learned we both have some wild desires we have kept hidden from each other for over 20 years. We may not live them all out, but we are working on it. You just have to keep an open mind. The more open you are to listen and not judge, the more they will tell you. I've learned things about my wife I never knew! Fuck! Our sex life has never been better.
     
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    Of course!! :)
     
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    I am not completely open with my partner. I have in the past but my current SO is not really open about things like that and she doesn't take things well so I ease into things and will touch upon things and feel out her reaction. She is less adventurous than I and less experienced and has a bit of a self esteem issue . WHICH she shouldn't , attractive woman , but it is what it is.
     
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    Thanks luvbug
     
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    I think this is probably the most prevelant situation. Initial impressions and courting tend to air on the side of modesty, by the time you are comfortable enough to share your kinks and desires, you may be too emotionally invested to deal with the consequences of said desires being rebuked. It's all luck of the draw and not everyone (myself included) is willing to give up on a relationship if a quirk is not shared.
     
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    More open now than ever before. You still worry about being judged, but if you are both open, it should be fine.
     
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    Bingo.hit the nail on the head.
     
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    I am completely open. He knows everything I like and want to try.
     
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    My last GF started crying when I told her I want to broadcast some stuff online and see how the other couple reacts. She was like whatttttt you want to show my body to some other random guy?

    But that has not stopped me telling everything that I feel. I think its unfair if couple hide their feelings. It is a must for me.
     
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    In my last relationship there was almost no openness. To say she was sheltered as a child would be an understatement. On the other hand I had been watching porn and masturbating since maybe the fifth grade or so.

    I was her first boyfriend, and I was worried that my ways would shock her, so I lied and said I never watched porn (I just had a feeling she would have not responded well). That set a really bad tone, and I felt like I was unable to discuss sexuality with her because I would have been unable to explain my knowledge and experiences. All of this took me out of the drivers seat and relegated me to wishing, hoping, and becoming frustrated when things didn't work out as I wanted them to.
     
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    My fiancé and I are completely open in our relationship, She knows all of my kinks/fetishes/desires, knows I play online frequently and post myself on the internet. She enjoys playing with me and other girls that I bring home, and sometimes just enjoys watching. Her only rule is i can't post any of her on the internet, but other than that she is completely open and we don't hide anything from each other
     
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