How many times does it take?

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  1. EnigmaticSpirit

    EnigmaticSpirit New Member

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    I lost my virginity over the past year so I'm pretty new to the sex thing and I haven't been lasting very long at all. When I asked people on here and elsewhere about this, I was told that you learn to last longer as you get more experience.

    I am wondering, how much experience does this mean? Like how many times does a guy typically have sex before learning to control it better? Also, is this referring to specifically penetration? Because I had gotten head many times before I had sex.
     
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    The answer is the same as to the one; "how long is a piece of string"?
    Depends dude but I strongly suggest you have a good jerk off before you anticipate getting laid.
    Whilst we are on the subject of jacking off again I strongly recommend that your practice edging so as to learn to delay and eventually control the urge to ejaculate in 10 seconds.
    It took me a good few years but now I can totally control when and even if I chose
    to cum.
    Ladies are rather fond of that skill :)
     
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    As you get more experience? Sure, it helps to get to know what you are doing, but perhaps they meant having sex more frequently to increase your endurance. Because you can have tons of time and experience under your belt, but unless you are using that time wisely you won't increase your endurance at all. You can increase and improve your endurance in a short length of time by having sex more frequently or by jacking off more frequently. I also know guys that practice during masturbation, slowing down, coming to an abrupt stop and mastering control over stopping the orgasm, some can bring their breathing rates down to stop orgasm, and this one guy I knew did exercises of flexing the muscle between his bum and scrotum randomly and it certainly paid off.
     
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    I would also recommend when having a piss try and stop the flow. This strengthens your muscles making you able to last longer.

    It's the "kegal excercises" that women get told to do.

    It works
     
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    Another exercise you can do is edging. You work yourself just to the "edge" of orgasm then stop, let yourself calm down and start over. You learn more self control while doing this...and it's fun (so says "T").
     
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    You cum fast because it's so new to you. Once it becomes more "old hat" you'll last longer. God when I first started I came before I even got inside once because this chick was sooo fuckin hot. The more comfortable you get sexually the more control you'll have. Now I cum when I want. 2 minutes or 2 hours, whatever I decide. It's all mental
     
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    How exactly do you get to that point? Do you have to keep stopping it and holding it in everytime you feel like you're about to cum or do you just keep pounding and not feel the urge?
     
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    Also, do the kegel exercises make you more able to stop yourself when you feel the urge or do they just make you not feel the urge so soon? Because it would be kind of annoying to have to keep pulling out and stopping myself.
     
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    It's all in your head. When you start it's " Oh fuck, I'm gonna cum too soon again" and guess what? You cum too soon. THEN you figure it out. Your cock is the tool of love. You use it so satisfy your woman. You give her a few orgasms with it because you are THE Love God. After this you tell her how beautiful she is and nobody has ever been as sexy as her. Now it's your turn and you let loose with all you've got... then do it a few more times that night. She tells her friends about you and then your phone is ringing constantly
     
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    Happened for me for a year or so. After long, it began feeling different in that it wasnt so overwhelmingly good that I wanted to bust asap. I got used to it kinda. Every so often the quickies happen but I can enjoy it alot more by lasting longer.
     
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    So it's all mental? I have watched homemade pornos online where the guys looked like they were in their teens and they seem to just keep going and going without cumming. Do they just probably have more experience? Or are there some natural physiological differences between some people that make them able to last longer?
     
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    some guys can just do it...others have to learn...some dont wanna take the time or just dont really care that much...if you want to learn there are many books out there on the topic of male multiple orgasm and the ability to last all night. get one , read up, and start to learn about your own body. just dont expect it to happen overnight. it takes a little time ...but be patient, its worth it.
     
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    Are we talking about lasting longer without cumming or being able to get hard and cum multiple times in a short amount of time?

    When you say, "some guys can just do it" what is it physiologically that makes those guys capable of doing it? Or is it just mental?

    And is it true that guys lose the ability to go multiple times in a short amount of time when they get into their 20s? I've heard someone say that before, not sure if its true or not.
     
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    even the author of the book couldnt say "why" some guys have control and some dont..but stated that all could "learn"...
    and the trick seems to be being able to seperate ejaculation from orgasm...as they are two seperate things that "want " to happen simultaneously...the book will teach you how to orgasm several times before you ejaculate...and also will teach you how to "read" your own body and hence, control when you cum...
     
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    Hmmm, which book is this?
     
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    i bought the damn thing 15 years ago...title was like..."male multiple orgasm....blah,blah." i cant remember...but i will try to find it for you...
     
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    title is "how to make love all night"
    i know, i know....how could i have forgotten that....
     
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    Masturbate 20 minutes (or per your refractory period) before you have sex if all you're concerned with is the amount of time you can endure sexual endeavors.

    Otherwise, any one who you care for should care for you in the same light. This should set in place the either of your commitance beyond this matter.
     
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    You could also invest in a fleshlight. They have a "training model" that could help you build endurance.
     
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    I agree with this one. I remember my first time, don't we all, and I lasted at least five minutes or maybe more. Since then it has always been several minutes, which is about average, but with experience I could make it last longer if I wanted to. I was trained in tantric techniques, but I use them to enhance my wife and my own orgasm rather than last ages.

    I think being naturally long-lasting is down to being attuned to yourself.