[Ask a Guy] How many thrusts do you have before you cum

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  1. appliepie

    appliepie New Member

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    My husband has premature ejaculation and sometimes cums on the 2nd thrust. This is soooo frustrating. He gets me off in other ways but sometimes you just need to be fucked! I haven't been with another man since we got married and I long to be fucked a little longer than that. Whats normal for most guys?
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    It depends on how much foreplay is before hand. If she is ready and we just have intercourse, I can last about half an hour.

    But if I'm really horny and spend some time pleasuring her, by the time I'm inside, I'm done.

    A recommendation is to pleasure him first and then let him recover while pleasuring you.

    For example, my fiance will give me a blow job and then I will give her a massage and oral. By this time, I am recovered and guys usually last a lot longer their second wind. I can fuck her easily for an hour getting her off multiple times before I cum again.

    Hope that helps!

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    Sorry, I don't generally keep count once I get it in.
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    This is certainly true for me. After my refractory period I can last an hour also. And when I do cum, it's a body quaking event. Sometimes I jerk off a half hour or hour before, or like majuro said, have the lady perform bj as a preliminary. The second rising can be so successful that I've had women ask me to stop because they were getting sore or couldn't cum any more.
    Not bragging. Just saying majuro is right. This applies to many guys I think.
    At the other extreme, I had a lady wanted to do anal and I was so excited I came on her ass trying to get in. :(
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    igor Gold Member

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    AT my age (68) one orgasm is pretty much it for me. I can usually last 20 minutes or so, depending on how worked up I am or how fast or what position we use. He should look up PE on the web for ideas how to help remedy the situation. 2 thrusts is definetly PE.
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    Do a lot of foreplay with him. Make him cum first, then make him pleasure you while he recovers, then he'll be able to last for a long time.

    If I don't cum first I usually last about 15 minutes, if I do I usually last 40 minutes or so. He could try tantric meditation. Through meditation during I can last for a few hours.
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    hugs applepie, an ex of mine had PE, I know how it feels. My ex would cum when we kissed, would cum as soon as I started a BJ and then would cum after a few thrusts inside me, he had a fantastic tongue, but you are right - sometimes you just want to get fucked...long and hard.

    I would suggest both of you go and see a DR to get help together as this problem may stem from him, but it definitely affects both of you. Maybe you can go and get some counselling as well to feel with any feelings of guilt that you have (not saying you do - but I had lots of guilty feelings about wishing that I could be with someone else etc). In the end it broke us up as he refused to accept that he had PE and that we needed help dealing with it.

    Good luck hon :D
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    Statistically, single men last about 3 to 7 minutes and married men last about 6 to 12 minutes, depending on which survey you read. For me, I last about 10 minutes, and any longer than 10 minutes with regular sex means that we both get quite sore by the end of the week. A recent survey showed that women were most satisified with intercourse that lasted between 7 to 12 minutes, and were almost as satisifed with intercourse that lasted 3 to 7 minutes.

    I have learned Tantric sex, but I don't use it to last forever because lasting forever doesn't work, we don't like it. Tantric techniques are very good at helping a man control when he comes, although one must learn to last at least a couple of minutes before one can use these techniques.

    If you both seek assistance for your husband's problem, then don't set your expectations against some of the times in this thread. Most women I've had sex with would have been bored to tears with 30, 40 or 60 minutes of intercourse. Some of the women on this site might read my posting, and will probably agree with this statement.
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    Yeah, for the most part, that's true with me. I mean, I like a marathon occasionally. They can be special, at times, but I'd walk bow-legged if we did this regularly. Around 10 minutes is our usual, and is plenty. Of course, that doesn't include foreplay, etc.
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    Whenever the girlfriend wants a loooong fuck she just stats feeding me the beers lol.....its almost impossible for me to cum when I have had a few beers.
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    Something I did with my wife for a while that let me last quite a long time (sometimes too long) is to get myself inside her nice and deep. Then, without actually thrusting, I just gently press into her over and over. There's very little friction inside, since the penis can't get any deeper. But she enjoys it considerably, it gives her a nice full feeling and applies regular pressure to some of her pleasure centers. Then, once she's ready, I start thrusting again and we can cum closer together.

    I don't do that much anymore, my stamina has improved with practice.
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    Thanks,
    I will try to get him to get some help but he probably won't. He thinks that because he makes me cum that it is good enough. I can't stop thinking of getting fucked. It is on my mind all day. I think I am going to have an affair with someone to find out if it is worth it. I read about people having sex or see it in a movie and I just want to scream. I think I am missing out on something but I do need to find out for sure.
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    Affairs are NOT a good idea. You need to work out the problem with him or break up. Don't go cheating.......You can invest in some toys and go at it with him, or let him do it. Porn and regular movie sex is bullshit. Good sex is sex with a lover.....
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    I know, you're right. That's just my frustration talking.
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    Let out your frustration hon *hugs*
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    Affair... Not a good idea. My advice is similar to those guys above, give him a BJ and get back down to some foreplay, not many guys cum fast after a good BJ. Also ihate to say it but a few beers also isnt a bad idea as it desensitises you. also condoms will help with that to. He doesnt necessarily have to see someone he just needs to admit to himself he needs to do more to please you. Most of us start off cumming fast only those who try get better.
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    How many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie Pop?
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    It all depends on how worked up and horny I am.....sometimes Ill last for between 15-20 minutes or other times less....if Ive already cum once , its much longer for me to shoot a 2nd. time.
    Another thing is positions we are in.....missionary, I last alot longer in, doggy , and Ill shoot faster, her on top and reverse on top, Ill last alot longer......you may wanna see if different positions can be better for him to last longer.....good luck!