How many partners is alot??

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  1. Scotty

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    How many sexual partners would you say is too many for a 30 yr old woman who was in a relationship for 4 years to have had??
     
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    I'm not quite sure what you mean. Do you mean in addition to her current partner or before she met her current partner?

    The answer to your question is a matter of personal opinion, anyway. I'm 31, and have been with about 20 partners. Some poeple might think that's a lot, but others might think that's about average. Others still might think that's not very many.

    I'd say there's no such thing as 'too many' but that's just my opinion. :)
     
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    Sorry, I worded that a bit crap, yes before her current partner and if she has been in a relationship between 23 & 27yrs.

    Thanks
     
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    I dont think #'s are important at all when your with someone because your relating to the person from the time you meet them onward. Not by there past. I'd say as long as the person is clean and used protection, its all good.
     
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    there is a country song that talks about past relationships... part of the lyrics include
    that can relate to sexual relationships as well. As long as your partner is clean and faithful to you NOW... what happened before you should not be an issue, consider it a perk that you have (what I am assuming would be) open and fun, knowledgable, sexual partner
     
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    100 is a lot i think
     
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    I find that you cannot beat experience. With every partner your experience grows and ultimately makes you a better lover. Not sure that there is anything like "too many".
     
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    I don't think there is such a thing as "too many" unless it bothers her or her partner. Some would insist that even one is too many unless she was married, so picking a particular number as being too many is pointless. I don't think it would bother me if my wife had been with a thousand guys before me, as long as she doesn't cheat on me.
     
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    Wow! Puss, you got me being very curious! You got 20 men in bed? Oh man... All relationships didn't last that long? LOL Just kidding ya. :D

    IMO, it doesn't matter as long as you know what you are doing. When I had affairs, I always use condoms. When ladies asked me to not to use condoms, I told them that it isn't an option, otherwise, I was ready to walk out the front door. No regrets at all.
     
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    I think to each his/her own.Just as long as everyone is safe/protected and nobody's getting hurt.
     
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    I've known of some law firms who have hundreds of partners and they are always "fucking" someone! OOOH! SORRY! Couldn't resist a lawyer joke! I'm a "recovering" former legal field employee, ha, ha!
     
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    A slut is what an insecure man calls a woman who has had more sexual partners than he has.:)
     
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    My number is 21 but if I wasn`t married it would probaly 60 by now!
     
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    in the 20's here ... closer to 30 though.......and ever growing if I can help it.:dgrin
     
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    a slut is somebody that will sleep with anybody, a bitch is somebody that will sleep with anybody but YOU!
    i think that guys just feel insecure about being with girls that have more experience than they do, im a guy and i think that its stupid that if a girl is experienced she is a slut, but if a guy is experienced hes amazing
     
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    Quoted for Truth
     
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    I think that double-standard exists because it is a lot easier for women to have sex. All most have to do is open their legs and someone is bound to have sex with them. It takes a little more work for a guy.
     
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