How many of you have sextapes with your exes?

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  1. queenmargot

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    I want to know how many of you have made home sex vids with current bf/gfs and/or exes. And those of you who have, how many have kept them even after breaking up with the person involved? What are your reasons?

    I ask because in the beginning of my relationship I learned that my partner had made sex films with his ex girlfriends. I hadn't and was excited to do this with him until I learned of this (kind of took away the novelty factor for me) then later found out he still owns said sex films. He doesn't want to erase them, although he swears they hold no sentimental value, simply because it's him "making porn". Is it possible to hold on to a sex tape of an ex for the mere sake of it? I don't really care he still has them, i have watched them (hearing them moan really turned me on, weird right?) I'm just curious on YOUR opinion on the matter.

    edit; I just realized this might be considered a Sex and Relationships geared thread. Sorry for the misplacement, if the case.
     
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    I'm married and have never done this nor do I plan on ever doing in. In the event of a break up, I would demand the videos be relinquished or destroyed. I refuse to allow a potentially bitter breakup destroy my life by an ex plastering my sex tapes all over the internet.

    I also would be kinda miffed if I found out that my Husband still had tapes of him and an ex. I know that she/they were part of his past, a rather big part, but that doesn't mean I want him keeping sex tapes. There are letters, photos, cards, gifts etc, but for some reason, sex tapes just make me...miffed lol
     
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    I make sex tapes with my gf all the time. They are more for us to watch when we're away or sometimes together ;)

    There are lots of reason to make a sextape but fantasizing about an ex is NOT one of them for me. I had pictures of my past gf's which I voluntarily destroyed, only cos once I'm in a stable relationship - I didnt feel the need to carry baggage from the past.

    Taping my current gf is different all together. We are with each other and love living out our fantasies.
     
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    Never made any with any exes but have made them with OH. We tend to make them, watch them, then get rid of them just in case our kids find them!!!
     
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    I have made a couple sex pix (which are lost) with the one i lost my virginity too and made a vid with my soon to be ex wife (that i pray is destroyed lol...i've misplaced it but will delete it if i find it)

    Okay that's suspect...the only reason to hold onto them are for sentimental value or as insurance or for distribution. Although I guess it's kinda of a novelty i suppose of seeing him with people he's known, came in, penetrated etc as opposed to girls he's never met.

    Heres an idea...in the future, have an agreement, like if you're broken up they're destroyed..or if it's pix of you they go to you. Or promise not to show them to ne one else....not really iron clad but if he values your friendship he'll agree to it. U get the gist lol
     
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    Honestly, at first I was very hurt he still had these and accused him of holding onto feelings for these girls. Though it is on a device that he no longer uses, it still felt wrong. Part of getting to know (and understand him) has allowed me to realise that this is really a novelty value to him. He has had countless opportunities to remain in contact with said girls (on their part) to which he has refused, so the worry for me is no longer a factor.

    We made a vid ourselves once, I watched - was weirded out by my expressions more than anything and deleted it immediately and haven't made any films since. I think I'll just stick to watching ourselves in the mirror !
     
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    lol I read queermaggot hahahahaha

    My ex had one that her friends just blurted out one day. I didnt like that. She was a slut in college...
     
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    It's ok, I read queenmaggot every time.
     
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    Yes, I didn't really think twice when creating this username haha. (it's the name of what I was drinking at the time) I'm content with being known as the Queen Maggot all the same :lol:
     
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    Haven't done it yet, but it's something I wouldn't mind doing. The issues brought up about stuff being plastered all over the Internet apply equally for images, and can be just as bad really. So at least for me I can't see being cool with images and not video too (and this applies for myself too). I realize not everyone can be trusted to do the right thing, and I'd be willing to bet more oft than not it's the guys who post their GFs online port-breakup more than anything. Or maybe that's just because that's what gets catered too.

    When the cheating whore and I split up many years ago, I still had numerous pics of her. I'd be a liar if I said I didn't consider plastering them all over, but honor won out, and I deleted them instead. Deep down I knew that it wouldn't make anything better, and it would only make me a giant douchebag. Not too many years ago, I came across an image that had made it across a few hard drives and system rebuilds that I'd not known of of her, a collage she'd created for me but then never showed me. I deleted that too.

    In the end the issue of pictures and video is one of those I think you either have to accept it could very well end bad and just relax and have fun, or you can fret over it or even try to involve mutually assured destruction as a means to be sure it never happens. Or refuse to ever partake in it, but where's the fun in that?
     
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    I had considered it but I have never done it. I have sent a few of my exs pictures and no idea what they have done with them. hopefully they were like Texas red and moral won over.
     
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    I wouldn't mind at all. Porn is porn; and people have emotional relationships all the time. This is a non-factor for me.
     
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    I got a few.
     
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    we made one but i soon deleted it as my performance was crap.......!!!!!...lol...
     
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    we have some brief lil videos.....some are posted in the video section here....so i guess theyre already "out there" and once it out there....you cant take it back :) so i guess we can never break up....:D
     
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    i wish