How many of the females here agree with this ?

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  1. Kronnie

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    When speaking publicly about the subject of penises it seems that most of the women tended to get embarrassed or shy at the beginning of the conversation. Yet we noticed that as the conversation continued these same people overcame the shyness and embarrassment rather quickly. What surprised us right away was that all of the women said that yes, penis size does play a role in their sex life. However we also learned that it’s not usually a desire to come in contact with a big penis. In fact only one of the ladies indicated that she is always looking for the biggest penis, and that she has a difficult time with being aroused and achieving orgasm unless it is a larger than average penis. The other women mentioned that the visual aspect of a large penis can be very arousing, and yet when it came down to actually "doing the dirty" these women would back down as they would be in physical pain if it was too long or too wide. Most women reported that a fully erect penis at 7 inches in length and about 5 inches in girth (circumference) was just about perfect. In retrospect the ladies reported that a penis that was shorter than 5 inches with a girth of 3 inches or less was neither arousing nor very satisfying.

    full artical inside
    http://www.buzzle.com/editorials/2-27-2006-89914.asp
     
  2. Puss_in_boots

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    Interesting article, Kronnie. It confirms what I and many other :sf members have been saying all along. So many guys are convinced that they have no chance of being a great lover unless they have a huge cock. I guess they think that being a great lover entails slamming a monster cock in and out of a woman's vagina and mistaking her screams of pain for pleasure.

    However, that Great Penis Debate website for which Cbrmale posted the link in another thread begs to differ. It claims that men should neither listen to women nor to the experts when it comes to penis size. According to that website, women (and experts) who say that penis size doesn't really matter are lying. That's right..we're lying in order to not hurt anyone's feelings. I take a huge issue with that, of course. I'm not lying when I say that anything larger than perhaps seven inches is too large and ceases to be pleasurable. FOR ME. Each woman's preference is different but I think about six inches is the ideal size.
     
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    Good article Kronnie.

    This part says a lot too...its more about confidence and skill then size. Much of sex is in the mind.

     
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    Yes sex is mostly mental stimulation not physical stimulation
    that is why size plays such a small role
     
  5. Kronnie

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    Im glad this turned out to be a good site i found...
    I dont believe that females lie, some maybe do, but on the whole i would much rather listen to a females point of view on penis size , as it will mostly be females that will be enjoying or not enjoying the penis being inside of them.

    I mean me personaly i would hate to think i was to long or thick for most females, because for guys that may well be, it can be just as distresing as being to small.
    But we all have our own likes and dislikes. And Puss your not wrong at all for not wishing a huge penis on a guy... no matter what size a guy is below not every female will wish to have it big small think or thick.

    Oh and i know very well that a penis is only a small part of ultimetly pleasing and pleasuring a female, which is why i love pleasuring, havnt had much the other way round, perhaps because it was uncomfy for the females i was with.
    I hope i put that correctly hehe
     
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    The link I posted was extrapolation of research conducted by measuring the arousal of a random group of volunteers when shown real-life erect penises of various sizes, or when stimulated by dildos of various sizes.

    In both studes, the arousal was gauged by observing pupil dilation as well as vaginal wetness, both valid psychological methods.

    The table that was presented giving ideal sizes at (I think) 7" to 8" long and ideal girth at between (I think) 6" to almost 7" was compiled from the two studies. Given I fit in the middle of these size ranges, I know from my experience that with proper care and attention, intercourse is never painful, even if a partner has a smaller than average vagina. Arousal is the key, and once a woman is fully aroused she can accept the size ranges above as long as intial penetration and thrusting is slow and easy.

    The psychological studies on the site were sound as was the table of ideal sizes, especially when sizes beyond 8" long and 7" girth were a turn-off. The great penis debate site takes this valid data and then hypothesises reasons: be they visual, additional stimulation due to width (stretching), additional stimulation of length (touching sensitive spots in the vagina or each thrust being longer and more satisfying). My own theory by observation is that excitement when presented by a large penis is as much visual as anything else, but not being a woman I can't say that excitement is not also the anticipation of physical sensations to come.

    I will ignore the comment about women lying, because measuring actual arousal and compiling the results of two statistically sound studies will always give a more accurate result than anecdotal comments.
     
  7. Kronnie

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    Thats the thing cbr no ones disputing that the look of a long thick penis isnt highly arousing to look at, its just that as Puss says some females will ru na mile before letting something like that inside them from fear..
    No matter what sorts of tests are done its never going to cover the whole range of females just a slim spectrum of them...a test on 3000, isnt the same as the wide 3,500,000,000 females that there are roughly.

    Im quite big, but im not at the point where im self deluded that every single female wants a big cock.
    some do, some dont, some couldnt care less about the size, some dont even have sex.

    Not taking a pop at you cbr, its just that there is a wide range of different females in this world, i mean i enjoy looking at a very hard long thick penis, to me its far better than looking at a soft or semi hard one...but that doesnt mean i want to ride it.
     
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    Kronnie,
    Social psychology is all about statistics, I never did as much mathematical calculations as during my undergraduate degree. And if we weren't extrapolating human behaviour, we were extrapolating rats (the psychologists favourite animal), such as how many generations it took to produce 'maze smart' rats from 'maze dumb' rates (I'll never forget that study).

    Penis size is frivolous; all sorts of behaviours you will read about from time to time are all extrapolated from samples. The tools the clinical psychologist uses to treat those who have emotional disorders were originally derived from studies and statistical analysis.

    Beyond psychology, almost everything medical is statistically derived: from the harmful side-effects of smoking and drinking too much or a bad diet or obesity or almost anything else you can possibly think of. So if we want to live long and healthy we don't smoke, we drink in moderation, we eat healthy foods, we keep our weight in line. Nobody would arge with this advice, and we feel bad when we don't follow this advice. And yet we can do all these things and die at 40 or we can abuse ourselves and live to 60. It's all just statisics and probabilities.
     
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    Yeah i know, and many mediacal/surgery opps we know about came from the german nazies from the war camps.
    Im just meaning in a way that not everyone fits iinto those labels :)

    as in some people dont catch HIV, some never get cancer from smoking tons a day, theres always exceptions to every rule. and im sure penis size is no exception..

    i guess theres a difference betwen enoying the look of something big/huge/massive to actualy having it inside .

    Females are in some ways visualy appreciative the same as males are, its just males are more open about that...
     
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    Actually,
    I agree with many of the comments above. It also depends mostly on what that particular woman likes. Some women may like it bigger than others do. I've heard some women say size doesn't matter and I'ver heard some woman even say if it's too big it hurts. I've even heard some woman say that don't like it if the guy is too short or small. Oh well... I guess to each his own. Me personally? My wife says that I'm so big I should star in a porno. Well I guess IF you do believe that "Size Does Matter". I guess then I'm the lucky one (if you believe that). But then I guess that would also mean that my wife IS the lucky one also. Hee-Hee
     
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    were all lucky in many ways ...
     
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    I'm usually attracted to the person, not the genetallia. Therefore, any penis is perfect, on the right person. IMO
     
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    Well ALL I can say is:

    Kronnie & Dreama - You said it well.
     
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    For VISUAL arousal, I do indeed feel that when i see a long, thick penis, it is very stimulating. A physically fit man, with such a package, is a gorgeous thing to stare at. :D

    On the other hand, I would be fearful to take it on sexually. That's probably when the stimulation would decrease significantly.

    Thorn's hard-ons can vary in length. Normally he is aboiut 6 or 6.5 (just guessing here). There have been times when I am sure he is a bit longer, as he bottoms me out during those times even though I am fully aroused. On those occassions, I have to tell him that "It's a Big Day, Thorn, go slow..." He does, and in a little while, I am able to take it all comfortably.

    So.... a long, thick cock to look at is great - - but that's it for me.
    jmho :)
     
  15. Kronnie

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    I agree with you, ive said a good amount of times , i to enjoy looking at long thick hard cocks...it is a visual pleasure for me...but thats as far as ill go..

    I love looking at the female figure as well, as it has and always will be a very visualy pleasing form to look at..