How many is too many?

Discussion in 'Ask a Guy/Girl' started by Magnus_Phallus, Jan 23, 2015.

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How many is too many? (for guys)

  1. more than 1

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  2. between 10 and 20

    6 vote(s)
    25.0%
  3. between 20 and 30

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    4.2%
  4. between 30 and 40

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  5. between 40 and 50

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  6. more than 50

    2 vote(s)
    8.3%
  7. there cant be too many

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    54.2%
  1. Magnus_Phallus

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    We are all aware of the common societal attitude
    toward promiscuity, especially for women.

    For a variety of more or less justifiable reasons,
    historically the general collective outlook on
    multiplying partners has not been very favorable.

    There can be a noticeable difference between
    the way people see guys and girls in that respect.

    I wonder just how many is too many for a guy.

    It would be great if you could qualify your answer.
     
  2. Magnus_Phallus

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    Has this subject been covered already?

    Admitedly I did not do a forum search
    before starting this thread :oops:
     
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    There can't be too many. This goes for men and women. It doesn't somehow make you more or less of a person if you've slept with 1 or 1000 people. It doesn't matter and frankly, it's of nobodies concern except those you've been with if/when you choose to share that information.
     
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    So if I understand your answer, you see it as a personal matter.

    You would find it unreasonable for society to impose a norm
    to anyone on this matter... do I detect a bit of irritation as well?

    Have you found it somehow vexing on occasion when people
    would make value judgements based on that?
     
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    That lets me off the hook. I was getting concerned about my own feelings LOL
     
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    It is entirely a personal matter. Society has no standing on what is or isn't an acceptable number of people to have slept with in your life and it's crazy to think they do.
    Vexing is a very appropriate word for how I find it when people bring it up in casual discussions referring to folks as men and woman as whores and such.
     
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    Remember the saying about people living in glass houses. Never ever be judgemental of others, you may find yourself in the same position one day.
     
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    Im 50 yrs old , i have only been w 2 women, except for a brief period when we split up and I was single for about 6 weeks in my early 20s. Probably had 10 or 12 encounters in that time. So i guess 14 or so....But I actually feel very monagamous ..
     
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    Not counting but a few.
    To each their own, just be safe and don't use others is what I feel about it.
     
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    Those are interesting views.

    There seems to be a concensus developing.

    A sign of the times perhaps
     
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    Had quite a few, and I really couldn't care less about what someone might think of that. Someone telling me, or worse, trying to impose on me their views about how many should I have ... let's just say I wouldn't find that very amusing.
     
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    Once the number 10 gets exponential beyond 3 I get a little concerned ;)
     
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    Only a year ago, if you had asked me I'd have said "More than one and shame on you... and even one that wasn't me is bothersome."

    Now I side with Mittimer's responses here. It's personal and there shouldn't be an "acceptable limit" placed on number of sexual partners. So long as you are being safe and doing no harm then each person should be allowed to evaluate for themselves whether 1 or 10,000 is their "acceptable limit."

    I've done a lot of learning since Ye Olde Tymes... mostly 'cuz people like Mitt have yelled at me a lot for being an ignoramus. :p
     
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    From what my guy friends say they don't like nasty sluts that have been with all their friends, sluts= STDs
     
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    Shouldn't this question be how many is not enough :cool: lol
     
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    I haven't ever counted but I would guess more than 200, so clearly I don't believe in labelling anyone, man or woman, by number of partners.

    I believe it's better to have a number of partners before a long-term or lifetime relationship, in order to learn about sex and all that goes with it.
     
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    (as I am writing this)

    At 56.3% it's quite unequivocal, most SF members believe
    it rather arbitrary and unjustified to entertain the notion
    that someone may have had too many sexual partners.

    I myself have the same outlook on this matter.

    Of course the high potential for bias given the sampling
    cannot be ignored. Nevertheless I appreciate the feedback.

    Still, I am curious and would've liked to read more from
    those 43.7% voters who feel there can be too many.
     
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    My first wife + my second wife = 2 total. Not that I have high morals or standards, just not many willing participants. :(
     
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    I loved idea that I took a woman's virginity (my first wife), but more as a novelty and not really important in the big picture. Its never been about the past for me, nor do I worry how I or my partner compare to previous lovers... it's about now and the future
     
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    Oh Dear..Answering this could get me in trouble lol xo
     
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