how long until you have sex

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    Okay, so how long do you date someone before having sex with him/her usually ? I have been on a few dates (let's say maybe 10) with an amazing men and he seems to want sex now.
     
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    I'd like to wait but do you guys think he has been patient enough ?
     
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    If you would like to wait, then you should wait. It's really that simple.
     
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    the thing sex seems exciting but I feel like I would need to trust him more. does that seem normal to you ?

    I just sometimes think I owe him sex or something !!!
     
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    N° 1 Why on earth would someone name themself "small package"?

    N° 2 About waiting before "doing it", at my age, neither myself, nor my dates seem to want to waste too much time. I usually try to stick to girls over 30. Full intercourse on the second date is common in my age range in this country. Despite pretenses to the contrary, Latins generally are hot, and pretty free with sex.
     
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    If I were a girl, this is how I'd feel:

    If he's willing to wait five years to have sex with you, then he's worth sharing those intimate moments with.

    If he's demanding of sex and it's on the verge of tearing your relationship apart, then kick him to the curb, he just wants ass.
     
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    I don't know. I feel attracted to older guy is that normal ?? and is older guys let's say of 34 more ready to have sex soon than younger guys ?
     
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    Because most guys lie about their size, so I am doing the same ;)

    IRT topic:

    You will know when the time is ready. If you aren't sure if you are ready, then you aren't.
     
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    Jesse, Sex is a very pleasurable thing and most men are not going to wait
    to long before they begin to think you don't like sex,
    someone said that if he wouldn't wait 5 years then kick him out.
    If any man waits that long then he's stupid or sterile. probably sterile.
    who the hell would wait 1 year wasting time on a girl that wont have sex.:sf
     
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    I just think I will bugged out, I will unable to do it when I will actually come to it given what happened to me before.
     
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    Wait until you are ready, but don't wait too long.
    If you are as in tune to him as he is you; then you will know when the time is right.
    ~Bella
     
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    Jessie: do not plan sex, just let it happen when you are completely steamed up and hot.

    And I may add that if he doesnt take the time to get you completely ready for sex, Then DONT.
     
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    The thing is I do want sex but I'm scared I won't be able to go through penetration. Sure I could do it, but will he get mad if I totally panick when comes penetration ? I'm not sure but I could panick because well of something, it's often typical of people who went through the same thing as me
     
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    No Jessie; Any gentleman would never get mad at you if he loved you.
    When you have sex the first time it can be a pleasure beyond belief, But
    I know that some girls will PANIC (as you say) Don't worry about being panicky or you may as you have trained yourself to do so,
    I am a man (totally) and I can tell you if he criticize you in any way on your first time at having sex he is not worth the time to say GOODBY
    so quit worrying so much and when the time is right (and I think the time has been thoroughly explained to you) you will know it and GOOD LUCK.
     
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    it's not my first first time. it is with this man but I already had sex, against my will though, with others. so that's why I am a little scared. Since I got forced into sex before, I think this will be sort of an obstacle between me and having sex if you know what i mean. i'll be remembering pictures in my head.
     
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    Jess, I hope you saved those links I sent in case you ever decide to talk to any of those people. This just isn't something you're going to get over without help, but I'm not going to bug you about it. I just hope you'll do what's best for you.

    As far as how long you should wait, I'm totally with Jayce; his response sums up my own feelings on the subject. You should wait however long is necessary for you to establish that this a person you trust; and a guy who cares about you, a truly good guy, is going to understand that and not hold it against you. I don't have the issues you do and I would probably wait a few months before sleeping with a guy. Does that mean he should assume I don't like sex? Only if he's an asshole, and, therefore, not someone I want to sleep with, anyway. Besides, we would have The Talk early on, and I would be sure to ask him if he's got a healthy libido, adding the caveat, "Because I sure as hell do and everyday is not too often!" Maybe I wouldn't wait that long...it would depend on a variety of factors, comfort level being no. 1, and that's how it should work in any dating relationship.
     
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    A guy who cares deeply about the woman he's dating and respects her needs. Kind of a foreign concept to you, obviously.
     
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    20 years was WAAAAAY too long for me, or maybe not given my personality... hmmmm.
     
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    You are ready when you ready. Time varies from a couple dates to as long as you need. 10 dates would be a long time in my book :lol
     
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    Seems to me like you need to get your hands on a dildo and practice alone when you have the opportunity to prepare yourself.
     
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