how long do you last???

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  1. alan

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    when you guys are having sex how long do you usuailly last?? ive heard most men dont last very long..any truth to this?? if its the truth whats one way to last longer?? ideas ??thanks
     
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    I last anywhere from 10 minutes to 3 hours... It really just depends on my mood more than anything else. For greater control masturbation is great practice.
     
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    It depends on so many things that it could be 1 minute to 3 hrs. Foreplay is a huge part, along with muscle control.
     
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    Browsing the Internet, I found that single guys typically last about 3 to 7 minutes and married men about 6 to 11. I did some website work for an escort, and she thought those timings were about right: single guys about three minutes and married guys quite a bit longer. Most of her clients were married, she said.

    As for me, I aim to last about ten minutes, give or take. I did experiment with lasting longer for a short while, but we have a lot of regular sex and for some reason we both ended up sore no matter how much good quality lube we used. Actually I think it was too much girth = too much tightness and therefore too much friction, and the place where my skin was worn supports this theory.
     
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    Hiyas Alan , with time & practice control can be achieved . So the more you do it the more you can control when you go boom ;) .
     
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    I agree with cbrmale the first few years many guys cum in about 5 minutes. With more experience will bring ability to last longer because you've been through it all many times. Condoms will help because they insulate you with layer of latex. They even have delay type condoms today designed to knock down the sensation of the penis.
     
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    It depends on what she did for foreplay and what position we're in and how fast we're going. If its really fast in missionary and she sucked me hard just before it'll only last 5 minutes, but usually if I feel myself cumming I slow down or change position so it's usually at least half an hour of penetration sometimes over an hour plus another forty five minutes of foreplay and afterplay.

    If I've been drinking it can last even longer, but then things start to hurt (for both of us.)
     
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    It's so variable over time Alan, that it's not a reasonable question to ask, mainly because it's impossible to answer.
     
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    usually one minute
     
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    You mean we are supposed to put it in before we cum??????????
     
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    I cant answer for anyone but myself , but 2 to 3 mins for single guys , but 7 mins for married ?

    Both to me seem frightfuly low.

    Sorry to those that have PE.

    Ive suffered from impotence...

    But those times seem very far out , an escort is only going to be able to give an idea on what guys are like married or single that venture into paying for sex..

    With a partner you are dating or married to the sex is diffrent , then the sex you would have with someone your paying for.

    Most times for me just the case of masturbation takes me 40 mins.. sex over an hour or more.
     
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    It all depends, if we want it fast and quick.. less than 5 minutes, if we're into some long loving, a couple hours. But if i'm going fast the whole time, i can't last that long with all that stimulation, who could? but if you don't go too fast, yet not too slow, I can manage to go for a while. Also depends on the mood and such.
     
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    I take it you are curious about after insertion. One can control that. By altering the speed, having drunk a significant amount or changing position it can take longer. Masturbating I can go anywhere from 1 minute (when pressed for time) to almost an hour (at which point I can't control myself anymore).

    If you cum to soon, you can do any number of things to finish her off afterwards and make all right in the world.
     
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    I have seen about a dozen different controlled experiments, and seven minutes is the magic number, very few men go beyond seven minutes of continuous unbroken thrusting intercourse. The experiements in total cover thousands of couples and many times that number of actual sexual encounters timed by stopwatch.

    Premature ejaculation is defined as coming before you wish to come, and the typical timeframe is 1 to 2 minutes.

    The escort was a classy lady: attractive, great personality, you would date her if you had half a chance. She's a high-class working lady who sees the politicians and television journalists when parliament is sitting (we are the capital city of Australai). Her regular married clients are generally getting regular matrimonial sex at home and seeing her because they are in another city for four days at a time and need company / comfort / sex / a beautiful woman in their lives.

    Given who she is and the clients she sees, I think her perspective on intercourse times has value.
     
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    well im just a freak of nature then lol.... i can stay erect, i do not have a highly sensative penis...so penitration i can thrust for a lot longer than 7 mins...that is with me on top though or in control.

    The other way with the female on top, i last far less in time frame for penitration.
     
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    Seven minutes is an average with a spread of 6-11 minutes in most of the surveys. I usually aim for ten because I know if I go for longer on a regular basis it hurts (ouch)! I can go for much longer, but it depends on the moment. My record is about 30-40, but it wasn't really nice at the end and my legs were sore and she was sore and we never did that long again. So I draw the line at about twenty.

    Really a lot of man can last forever, but not many want to put their partners through endless pounding. Lasting longer is not always better...

    By the way I last longer with my partner on top, I have to work hard to not come quickly if I am on top.
     
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    Well some women prefer short sexual encounters thats for sure, others prefer longer, some even enjoy very long sexual sesions, although i can thrust fast for a long time, it doesnt mean i would be all the time, i can enjoy slow long sessions, alternating between tongue fingers hands and penis.....for vaginal stimulation.
    The thing is although tests may have been done on a few thousand couples or singles for times sexual encounters, there are i think at least 2 billion couples leaving a good 2 billion singles, so a few thousand will never encompas the entire range , although it is good for a basic referance in my view :)
    Im not saying you are wrong, just that it is a low proportion that have been tested. :)


    Just goes to prove we are all different sexualy really then :)
    I am lucky in a way that i can rise to the ocassion a few times so if i do ejaculate whilst underneath it would not be to long until i was ready below again.
     
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    When i was younger i used to last a very short time on my own with practice you can calm yourself down i have a technique where i try to focus on keeping my bum on the bed(if im laying or sitting)when i feel like im going to orgasm, it seems its practice makes perfect because after masturbating for a while with this when i got with my girlfriend i could hold it for a long time or release it quickly if i feel like it, the first time i had sex i lasted 40-50 minutes which i and my girlfriend where very surprised about i think its more about relaxation than anything also the obvious advice is jerk off about 30 minutes before you have sex or give your partner oral sex until shes close to orgasm then have sex with her. I think i could last as long as i wanted but after a while it becomes painful.
     
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    How different people have sex, either fast/hard or slow/soft could factor in. For the guys lasting up to 1 hour are you continually thrusting for the entire hour is doing a slow tantric sex, stopping and starting. I've noticed in amateur porn I see some couples going at a slower pace then I'm used to. I agree with cbrmale, anytime I've approached a 1/2 hour of continous vigorous thrusting the woman I was with got pretty sore. At a decent pace 10-15 minutes seems like a good compromise.

    I agree other factors play in too such as newness of partner, how long it's been since you've cum and mood.
     
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    One of my challenges to overcome is a tendancy to finish too quickly. In my experimentation, I have noticed that straight pumping from start to finish is not necessarily the best way to go all the time. There is definitely something to be said for stoping and starting back up.

    Also, there is medication out there that draws things out a bit. For a while I was taking some medication for an emotional problem, and one side effect was that it took longer to climax. It turned out to be a nice little side effect that I miss dearly since I stopped taking the medication...