I am a relatively 'healthy' male in my mid 30's. I LOVE sex and I LOVE pleasing the woman I am with. But, I had back surgery 6 months ago, and the 3 women I have been with since are flat out not satisfied with what I can offer sexually. Doesnt matter the position, oral, manual, foreplay. Each of them have for the most part (Im guessing 80% of the time) not been satisfied. I try as much as possible, but due to my back pain, and back issues, I am flat out unable to do whatever it takes long enough for them to orgasm. I am by no means selfish, it is more of a physical limitation at this point. Do any of the women here have experience with this? Comments, how you dealt with it, did the 'issue' become a dealbreaker, etc ? Please be honest, as I need some incite here, it is possible I have this issue for quite some time (6 months ?). I need to know how to mentally prepare/approach this. This may be an ongoing problem for me, and I am hoping this issue isn't as rare as i imagine it to be. Oh, and plllllllllleeeeaaase do not comment to the affect of, "once you find someone who loves you", or "once you find someone compatible" things will work out. Im pretty sure the gf I had immediately durig the time of my surgery got bored cause even though she was someone who orgasmed during actual sex regularly, she was unable with me due to my back problems/recovery. Selffish- YES, but true nonetheless. And trust me, I try foreplay for extended amounts of time, and I get creative.