Is monogamy outdated? With all the failed marriages, divorces, affairs people are going through, has monogamy outlived its usefulness? I'm certainly not knocking monogamy. I know there are many people in harmonious monogamous relationships who would be extremely repelled by the thought of having sex with someone other than their lifelong partner. However, I seem to have an adverse dread of commitment and getting married. I have past relationships that have ended because of my reluctance to pose the big M question to women. To me the idea of waking up to the same person day after day, year after year fills me with panic. Some of my friends and colleagues have commented that I will die alone and childless, and that I should just grow up and get on with starting a family. To me this seems so cold and calculated. I knew a female single friend of mine who once announced that she wanted kids and within 6 months she was married and pregnant. While I try not to judge others, I couldn't help feeling that the man she ended up marrying was just a sperm donor for her. Is anyone monogamous here and if so how do they make it work?