How do you write erotica without getting horny and needing to masturbate?

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    That's a question to all you erotica writers out there. How do you write erotica without getting horny and needing to fuck or masturbate?

    Well I tried to write erotica for the first time... about my sexual fantasy and things I have done, tried to keep it as mild as possible... but I can't seem to do it!

    I can only write 2 sentences without getting REALLY horny and needing to masturbate. I'm not really good at multitasking so I can't write and masturbate at the same time. So how do you accomplish writing erotica without getting horny?

    And another problem is, when I'm really horny, I'm not paying much attention to my writing in the first place, so it sounds terrible, lots of mistakes.

    So far what I have written is just the foreplay... it's terribly maddening.
    I managed to write about 8 whole pages of... terribleness, and it has taken me a LONG time, because I have to masturbate frequently :yell.

    I don't think this is something I can do ever again, unless yall can help me out with some tips. I mean there has got to be some way to get around it LoL.

    Well I'll post what I have in my story so far, so you can see. It's first person narrative style.
    But it abruptly stops once it get's to the actual sex - I had a hard enough time writing the foreplay :ugh

    And my terrible first erotica story has multiple fetishes. Interracial fetish, sleeping fetish, and some light sadomasochism fetish. It's the mildest I could write, and I know it most probably won't turn anyone else on, but it does for me :eek It might be creepy.

    So please bare with me, and give me advice! It was very tough trying to get this done, and it's not even edited or complete.

    I have to post it in pieces, since it's 8 pages long *sigh*. You don't have to read it all, but just in case people want to ill continue it on.


    So here it is:


    I stood outside on the balcony in the crisp night air. My warm pussy aching to be touched, as my mind replayed vibrant images of him. I caressed my clitoris as I stared out at the city lights, thinking about him.

    My pussy was still dripping and my body tingling with lustful desire even though it was hours ago that he had suggested sexual comments to me, while my family was off to the side preparing dinner.

    My parent’s had been in the same room, as I felt myself weaken, and my pussy begin to throb despite my attempts to ignore it. Oh, and he got off on the mere thrill of how uncomfortable I was.

    He had gently grabbed my hand, his lips parted, and that look of sexual daze, lust and intrigue in his brown eyes. He had always looked at me like I was so fascinating to him, like he loved every part of me, despite how horny he was. He reached across the table, my white fingers inside his big dark brown hands. He whispered, “hey white girl… do you want me to take you to the couch?” I couldn’t hide how much I wanted him. Embarrassed, I pulled away and finished my mug of tea. He enjoyed the very fact I was nervous, fidgeting, excited, scared and how vulnerable he made me feel.

    Now, hours later, I still felt so helpless, and uncomfortable walking around with my pussy juices trickling down my thighs, moistening my sweat pants. But this was my parent’s house - there was nothing I could do and I did not have my toys to pleasure me. Everyone was asleep, the house was pretty full, but I knew he was sleeping downstairs in the basement on the floor. My mom had given him a blanket.

    I tried lighting a cigar to ease my horniness yet it was no use. The cold night air was not relieving my hunger for him.

    I crept down the balcony stairs down to the first level, quietly to wake no one up. I wasn’t sure what I was doing. I just wanted to watch him… see if he was asleep…

    I snuck inside the glass sliding doors. Saw him across the room sleeping in the dark. He was on the floor. Poor guy, wished I could make him more comfortable.
    There was a blanket sitting on the pool table, I took it and quietly sat beside him. I sat there for many moments letting my eyes adjust to the darkness, city lights from outside illuminated his beautiful brown face. He looked so calm with pleasant purity, his big orgasmic lips slightly parted. He was on his back.
    I felt this sudden need to be close to him, that I could just sleep next to him all night would be enough to fulfill my raging desires. That maybe he might wake up and put his arm around me… to just feel his touch…

    I lay beside him gently, on my side. Suddenly my pussy began throbbing in full intensity. I gently squeezed my outer thigh and ass cheek, massaging it in circular motions. Slapping the material against my flesh quietly, I felt the delightful vibrations of my thighs and bum awake my clitoris into a blazing and throbbing sensation.

    A moment of clarity, fear, excitement, adrenalin rush – what was I doing? What if I got caught? I sat myself up, peered down at his face. He was still sound asleep.

    I slipped my hand slowly down my sweat pants, over my pussy, my wrist pressing against my clit. My finger lapping up the small wet dip and its hot juices, I shoved my finger into my tight yearning hole. Pulled it out and
    gazed down at his face, and those big, soft orgasmic lips.

    I gently smeared my finger over his lips, feeling how soft and slippery they became, then tasted the rest for myself. He stirred! In a fast two seconds of me freezing like a deer caught in headlights, I watched him automatically lick his lips and become still. The excitement raced through my body! He unknowingly tasted my pussy!

    I played more with my saturated pussy, sucked on my finger, and smeared my pussy juices against his lips once more. And in the heat of the moment I bent over him, my hair brushing over his face. My tongue licked his mouth – he did not wake up!

    I gently removed his blanket away from his chest. His one hand was against his side, and the other up by his head. The thrill had me so wet I could feel both sides of my thighs slippery and damp against the material of my pants. I slowly slid my pants off, breathing heavy, trying to control myself to not make any sounds. Just in case family walked in on me, I took away his blanket and covered my lower bare body with it.

    My gaze rested on his soft bulge awaiting me inside his loose boxer shorts. I glanced back up at his face… so vulnerable and peaceful… still asleep.
    I touched his thigh gently, to see if it would wake him up – it didn’t. Slapped his thigh a little, still didn’t awake. He was a deep sleeper.


    I resisted an impulse to lick his bulge covered in those shiny black boxer shorts, the material looked so smooth. But I thought better of it, still paranoid family might walk in on me.

    I slowly but firmly rested my hand on top of his junk, feeling the warmth of skin through his satin material bring me to ecstasy, peering up at his face – he stirred. I froze with my hand in place.

    I turned my hand touching the length of his cock. the bottom of my palm cupped where his balls might be, and I faced his sleeping face.

    My hand on the warmth of his lump filled me with orgasm, pleasure raced through every inch of my body. I massaged his warm soft cock beneath the satin. Traced the outline of it with my fingers. Felt the warmth beneath the silky smooth textured boxers, and the slight moistness of his sweat during sleep. I cupped his mound in my hand, rubbing it, feeling my hand mold to fit its roundness, feeling the soft lump beneath my hand begin to harden and form.

    He stirred. I was so pleasured knowing he was hard beneath my hand, unknowingly, unwillingly. I could see his eyelids fluttering, I could see him lick his lips, his breathing became harder. I pleasured him more. His head went to one side, his eyes still closed. He was still asleep. His head turned back to center position, then back to the side as he was pleasured during his sleep. His eyes fluttered open.


    :woohoo
     
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    Quickly I bolted in a panic, fell over into his legs, my hand still on his cock. Excitement, adrenalin, fear all rushed through me at once. It all happened so fast. He grabbed my hand hard, trapping me, latching my hand to his hard cock with such passionate intensity.
    Was he angry? What should I do? I looked up at his face. He was still waking up, looking up at the ceiling, his face still looked serene. He licked his lips.

    Many moments passed, embarrassing and horrifying minutes,
    with his hand tightly clamping my hand down on his warm hard dick. He finally lowered his gaze, looked down at where I was. He gazed straight into my eyes, a crazed look of confusion with his jaw open. I felt completely humiliated, but a wave of lust and passion surfaced over me.

    He pushed himself up with his other hand. And then he took his time slowly looking over every inch of my bare legs, his cock hardening even more in my hand.

    He whispered to me, staring deep into my eyes, “What are you doing to me?” I became flustered, looked down, tried to pull my hand away. He loosened his grip but gently coaxed my hand to stay where it was on his penis. He caressed my hand gently, which sent me a flourish of love and infatuation.

    When I looked up, his eyes were sparkling with friendliness and as he smiled he took his free hand and gently brushed the luminous wetness on my inner thigh. Intently and warmly, he inspected it on his fingers and tasted it. I watched him suck his fingers in enchantment.

    He touched me again.

    At his touch goose bumps sent a wave of delight. I moaned and naturally massaged his dick firmly in my enjoyment. My pussy was so wet. I longed for him to touch me more.

    He gently yet firmly pulled me towards him, his eyes hungry.
    “Are you trying to rape me white girl?” He whispered with a sly grin. “No…of course not.” I whispered, but I could not stop myself from grinning and letting out an mortified giggle.

    I felt him pull me over him, and his warm fiery mouth sucking my neck. My body shuddered in pleasure, my breaths gasping, he kissed me with such intensity I could feel the passion course through me. I let out a high pitched moan as he found a sensitive spot on my neck near its base and with that he pulled away, staring up into my face. His eyes trailed down towards my neck, trying to see beneath my shirt.


    “You couldn’t rape me…” He whispered and teased me by kissing the air. He sat up, pushed me back. “You are too weak…”

    I felt so submissive and owned, that I could not speak. I pushed him down into the floor, my fingers grasping into his shoulders. “Watch me,” I said, “I could fight you, take you down.” He sat up strongly with ease even against all my weight, his eyes slanted with amusement.

    I straddled him, pushing my pussy down hard against his cock. He whispered, “you are getting my boxers wet…” I forcefully pushed him down into the floor, and he submitted, relaxing, watching me contently.

    “That’s not how you fight white girl, that’s how you please a man.”

    Irritation sailed through me, and he loved it. He just laughed at my discomfort, grabbed firmly the flesh around my hips and pulled me into his dick. “Ohhhh fuckkkk,” I moaned loudly – too loud. I remembered the rest of the people in the house were asleep.

    And I was not going to give up that easily. I scrambled away, sat down on his legs and pinned him down.
     
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    I paused nearing the bulge in his boxer shorts. He sat up, watching. “What are you gonna do?” He whispered. “You are too submissive girl…”
    I pushed up his shirt aggressively. Gently I caressed his abs, completely lost in the moment gazing at brown skin. My parted mouth and tongue sailed across his stomach. I kissed his body passionately, with fervent bouts of wild intensity and them calm and deep kissing of gentle nature. My face smeared against his stomach, I licked him enjoying the salty taste of skin. His scent riotously intoxicated me with lust. I was unaware even of my pussy rubbing its juices against his leg.

    I was absorbed in making out with his body. My tongue exploring, trailing my way down towards the rim of his boxer shorts. I played with my tongue, slipping it under the rim of his shorts.

    I glanced up at him and smiled, and with a playful look in my eyes, I swiftly licked his satiny bulge. I knew he could barely feel it. He was staring at me contently.

    I pulled the boxer shorts down, just enough to expose a beautiful area of skin, just above his pubic bone. I gently licked it and sucked his skin. He stared at me with lust filled eyes.

    “Go on…” he said gently, and I realized I had gotten lost in his stare.

    I revealed his hard brown cock, and it made a grand entrance from pulling the elastic boxers away. I stared in wonderment, as the satiny elastic material released it quickly, and it slapped down against his flat pubic area.

    Completely transfixed, I licked and kissed his pubic area around his cock. I was careful not to touch his brown dick. My nose bumped against it accidentally. He began to squirm with anticipation and excitement and irritation. “Just do it already…” he whispered. I glanced up at him. “Please… Rape me.” He said, locking my gaze. I grinned.

    My face an inch away from his dick, I gazed at every inch of it. Gently gave his cock a little kiss on the head, and watched his face contort with pleasure. He was getting riled up now. I teased him gently by licking the shaft. Letting the scent of his sweaty balls fill me with greed for more, I twirled my tongue around and beneath the head.
    I took his cock in my hands pulling it towards me, feeling the foreskin glide smoothly and softly. I shoved my face down towards his balls, my chin rubbing against the carpet, enjoying the exhilarating sensations.
    I licked his balls, sucked on them.

    My mouth fit perfectly sideways on the base of his cock. I wrapped my lips around the base. Moved my lips up and down, and kissed it hard, my tongue enjoying the sensations. I licked the bottom of his dick ravenously, moving all the way up to the top, exploring every inch of it with my mouth, making it slimy with my saliva.

    His hands were entwined in my hair, and as I teased him by slowly and gently inserting the tip of his dick into my mouth and my lips, he pushed my head eagerly, wanting more. Instead I wrapped my mouth around his cock tightly, feeling the tip fill my mouth, and stopped below the crease of the head. I tightly submitted his hands in mine.
    I sucked on it and drew it out with a loud smacking noise. I had more fun tormenting him until he finally shoved it into my mouth.

    I felt his warm smooth cock slide into the back of my throat. My saliva pushed into the back of my throat as it slid in deeper. Gazing up at him, not able to breathe, I kept it there for many seconds and then pushed in deeper, until my face was against his stomach. I grasped passionately at his sides. He took my hands into his and held on tightly. And then I came up for air. He gazed at me with amusement and satisfaction. “I want more.” He whispered.
    I got lost in many moments sucking him, not able to keep my moans silent, glad they were suffocated. I loved the feel of his foreskin gliding against my lips, spit building up and sliding down my throat. I felt his knob sliding against the roof of my mouth, and relaxed my throat muscles to take it deeper. Gasping for air every 30 seconds or so. I sucked him off hard, and rough, until I was too ravenous, my pussy beating with pleasure. I pulled away with a cough, wiped the spit off my face, looked up at him and said, “hit me in the face with it."

    As his hard yet smooth cock slapped me against the cheek repeatedly,
    I couldn’t stop myself from blinking in reflex. I let my mouth open, his cock slapping against my check and my lips. A full body orgasm contracted throughout me, I moaned and gasped for breaths, and just as I was about to climb onto him and take his hard cock into me I saw he had it ready for me. His hungry eyes expectant, waiting to feel my hot wet pussy.

    I pushed him down and whispered, “no..,”
    “Rape me white girl.” He whispered, his eyes pleading.
    “No, because that’s what you want…” I whispered to him, leaned into him and bit his bottom lip. Straddling him, my pussy was smearing wetness all over his knob. He let out an orgasmic moan mixed with a noisy breath, and then I climbed off of him.
     
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    “Come back here white girl,” with his hands he slapped his thighs repeatedly, like a motion you would use to call a pet over to you. I grinned, circling him as he lay there. I walked around gazing down at the beautiful sight. In the heat of the moment I had not noticed he had taken his shirt off already. He was completely naked. His muscles were so orgasmic, like a dream – I had always thought he was out of my league.
    He lay down enjoying the view, as I took off my shirt.
    “Circling your prey…” he whispered, and chuckled. As I took off my bra, he stared up at my breasts, my nipples were hard seeing as it was cold down in the basement.

    I stood over top of his face, my feet on either side of his head. His hands raced between my thighs. I moaned in satisfaction. He cupped my firm ass cheeks in either hand, and I moaned at the feel. He spanked me, and the vibration of my ass jiggling sent waves of pleasure to my clitoris. I loved how good it felt to have my ass touched – but he began feeling my calves, kissing them, biting them. I decided I loved that too! He firmly massaged my firm calf muscles. “You have beautiful legs,” he whispered, lost in licking me. “So smooth...strong.” I began massaging my breasts, standing there with my eyes closed. Then suddenly I felt something brush against my pussy. I moaned and almost fell over. The pleasure was unexpected! I automatically reached down grasped at his hand and encouraged him to touch me. He took my hand, pulled me down, and I was too weak with pleasure that I could not resist.

    His tongue and breath felt cool at first as he licked my pussy, such a weird but pleasant sensation. He passionately enjoyed the wet crevices and lips, exploring my clit ring with the tip of his tongue. He penetrated my wet dip with his tongue. The feel of him tightly gripping my ass cheeks sent me into ecstasy. It was a tease! His little slippery tongue teasing my clit, teasing my pussy hole, I needed more than that. I realized I was still on my feet, crouched down. He was sitting upwards, leaning into me. I pushed his face down as I got onto my knees. And he passionately gave me more, more intensity, began making out with my pussy, I arched my back in delight, feeling my pussy juices stream even more, or perhaps it was his own saliva. His eyes were closed, his face calm and pleasant, the intensity sent a feeling of love throughout me. Arching back even more, and sitting on his face with more weight, I reached back and held his dick firmly in my hand. At this he groaned, pushed me across his smooth chest. “Get on my dick.” He demanded. “Please!” He moaned, “just rape me.”

    - abrupt end - :yell
     
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    what is wrong with writing a bit and then pleasuring yourself, and then writing a bit and then pleasuring yourself..it seems to work very well for you. your story was excellent...i would give a longer response, but i need to go masturbate now, myself....thanks...
     
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    LoL because its writing a bit and then pleasuring myself for HOURS before I can get to writing again, it takes forever! Thanks :) Think i'll go masturbate too lol maybe watch some hentai
     
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    Hmmmm, nice.

    Pleasuring yourself may all be part of the creative process. No point in just letting others get pleasure from your erotic fantasies.
     
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    Well that gave me a raging hard on! You should definitely finish that story
     
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    Very nice i masturbated while reading it
     
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    I've got a 56,000 word erotic manuscript, although that is a long way from 56,000 words about sex, which will be published later this year. I do get horny when writing, especially when I draw on some of my adventures for the sex scenes. Some of the sex scenes are not what I have experienced, because my sexual preferences are not necessarily those of all potential readers of this novel.

    My best writing, erotic and mainstream, happens just after sex. That's when I'm feeling the best.
     
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    Oh wow, congratulations on your erotica novel being published, and good on you for writing it, what is the theme and plot? I guess after some satisfying sex it would be easier to write.
    Didn't you say at one point that you had a website, are you going to be selling your novel there?
     
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    Thunderseed,
    I had two mainstream novels published hard-copy in the UK some time ago, through a small publisher with limited distribution. Both novels are now going to be re-published as ebooks through a Canadian publisher, and to help with promotion I am setting up my own website. The publisher has a website and the novels will be downloadable through Amazon and Barnes and Noble worldwide. We will be doing publicity in Australia through me and in the US and Canada through the publisher.

    My writing, both mainstream and erotic, is character-based, which is rare for authors. So I start with the characters and develop the plot to suit their personalities. The erotic novel is contemporary and starts in Australia before moving to Hong Kong when a friend is kidnapped by Triads and they set out to rescue her. It's a true erotic novel with a proper plot which relies upon sex (take the sex out and the plot falls to pieces). The characters include a clinical psychologist who knows a lot about sex, an Australian-Chinese girl based upon someone I once knew, the husband of the psychologist and an Australian aboriginal girl who becomes very daring and adventurous as the book rolls on. So it's a crime-mystery with a number of erotic scenes including group sex a few times, anal sex and a bit of bdsm (the psychologist enjoys this and knows why this is so: to be beaten and punished is an emotional unburdening for someone who has to be cool, calm and always in control in her professional life). The group sex includes a swingers party in Australia which gets the main part of the plot going, a sex club in Wan Chai, a re-visit to the sex club where a group of prostitutes distract the Triads to enable the rescue to take place, and this includes two-male threesomes and other delights, and also some out of plot reminiscing sequences (including another two-male threesome).

    I had a lot of fun writing it and making the sex integral to the plot. I also love the psychologist character, and it was enjoyable to be part of her story.
     
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    Good for you, always good to meet real writers, thanks for sharing. Beautiful, a mainstream novel blended with erotica is superb, sounds almost like it is also adventure, thriller as well as crime and mystery! Yeah it is crucial to have fun writing a novel, building and getting to know characters!
    If you are not wanting to build your website yourself with all the html coding (though that is fun) you could look in to a self hosted Wordpress site, it is very popular amongst writers, artists and photographers.

    I currently have around four novels on the go, yet only one of them is finished in the editing stage, which is a fantasy genre, I really had fun with all the characters. The others were more like a project - that is why they were never finished. I am sure I will never be able to write erotica. Have you ever posted excerpts from your novel on here?

    Oh, and do you know about asstr.org (Alt Sex Stories Repository), I'm not sure if you would get paid, but posting a scene or two there might help sell your work if you link it, and get it known.
     
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    Thunderseed,
    I will try the alt sex stories repository when the erotic novels come out later in the year. The trick with novel writing is to have good friends who like reading to review and comment on what you write, and to comment honestly. I traded favours and got part of my first Russian novel reviewed and assessed by a published author while I did some translations for her. Her professional suggestions helped me greatly, and also for the manuscripts which followed.

    I do have some exerpts of the Hong Kong novel in my blog. There are four sex scenes, and you can see how one links back to the main story line (never in a million years she lies). Most of the sex scenes are part of the plot, such as the prostitutes and triads when Sue watches two men and one girl and remembers doing that herself. We previously knew she had a casual sex past brought on by her parents divorcing and she gave it up to look for a relationship, and in this sex scene we now know why she did that.

    Writing sex is actually quite hard, which is why I do it! I use sex as a relationship marker in my mainstream novels, and I don't 'fade to black' either. That is, I use a sex scene to show a relationship crossing a line to the next stage. In the first Russian novel there are two sex scenes: one with his Australian girlfriend and has a hard time getting connected to her, and his first with his Russian girl which is very different (she murmurs love words in Russian while gazing deep into his eyes). In the Siberian-based sequel I have one sex scene which is the begining of renewal after a terrible ordeal.
     
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    Yup. I masturbated also. :)