He is absolutely terrible in bed. Here's my dilemma... Met a really nice guy and we've been seeing each other for a few months. He's a little young for me (I'm 23 and he's 19) and in some areas there's a complete discrepancy as far as experience goes (me being in a 2 year relationship when his longest was probably a month or two). I dont want to be controlling and I often find it hard to decide when I need to put my foot down and bring certain issues that irritate me to the table over just biting my tongue, relaxing and letting him just live his life. None the less, he seems very committed to our relationship and always willing to change certain things/work out any disagreements we have. Otherwise we get along, share a good sense of humor and enjoy each others company. When it comes to the bedroom, it's a different story.... Not that I'm a size queen by any means, but he isn't very well endowed. Normally, this isn't a problem if a guy could use what he's working with (which he surely can't). He has yet to ejaculate (which I'm pretty sure the problem isn't me) which makes me feel like each time we do anything it's about me trying to get off and him trying his very best to please me... and failing terribly. I've been trying to work a few new "moves" into our play time or make suggestions as to what he should do to make the experience more enjoyable... to no avail; either he's not a good student or I'm not a good teacher. He isn't smooth at all when it comes to foreplay and there are many awkward moments during sex - so awkward that most of the time I'd rather not even be having sex. In this area, this is a huge disappointment considering with my ex I was able to have explosive, mind-blowing, euphoric sex (but the guy just wasn't right for me). I don't mean to be rude here but forgive me for being brutally honest. He's a great guy; most of what I could ask for in a guy but unfortunately he's falling short where (lets be honest) it counts. My friends have suggested that I either tell him or break up with him - which for one, how do you tell someone that they are just not hitting the spot in bed? "Ah, hey, do you have a minute? You're awful in bed and I'd like for us to work on that". Secondly, this is a great guy otherwise, I'd miss him a lot if I just simply cut it off with him. I have feelings for him and I do want to work on this - I just don't know how or if it's even possible as I've been trying. I don't want to come off as incredibly shallow but I honestly dont know how much longer I could hold out and pretend that I'm getting everything I want in a relationship. I guess I'm mostly just looking for feedback here. Has anyone else ever been in this dilemma? Has anyone ever had the problem and found a solution? I'd really like things to be as enjoyable as they were with my ex... but it's hard to see that happening with the way things have been going. Thanks!