How do you fix bad sex?

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by monkeyfire89, Oct 8, 2008.

  1. monkeyfire89

    monkeyfire89 New Member

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    I have been dating this girl for sometime now. Ya she is nice and everything, but the sex sucks. Any more she cannot get me off. Am I doing something wrong here, or is she doing something wrong. Since she cannot get me off, I tend to have less and less sex with her because it does not satisfy me. Does anybody have any advise?
     
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    Well it sounds like you two need to communicate with each other better. All you need is to let her know what you like, have her enlighten you on what she likes and go from there. You need to put yourself in a positive frame of mind and be confident about your relationship and that it'll work out with time.
     
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    Tell us more...what exactly about the sex sucks?

    BD
     
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    It's not her sole responsibility to get you off. You need to take some responsibility for your own sexuality.
     
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    You do a lot of homework and actually Talk about what you and your partner like and don't like.
     
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    I have tried talking to her about what I, but she never seems to grasp it.
     
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    So, what have you talked about? You're not giving us much to go on here. Give us details, man!

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    Rose Resident Sexy Grandma
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    I would mirror "Wickd Beauty" -
    You know that "positive frame of mind" is a very important part of satisfaction. Feeling she can't get you off will play havoc in your psyche... In my humble opinion, ANY woman can cause a man to orgasm by oral stimulation, if:

    #1 - She is a willing participant
    #2 - The recipient is open to feel HER passion and resolve....

    In other words.... try not to expect her to be PornStar material. Allow her to be a loving, hot, sensual woman who desires to please you. Lose yourself in her movements and technique. Real women put all they have into pleasing their man. Allow her eyes and body language to engage your senses. She may just be what every man has ever hoped for.
     
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    OMG yes...I'd take a loving, hot, and sensual woman who wants to please over a "porn star wannabe" anyday. Your post made me hot, Rose! :brow

    BD
     
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    All of the above!
     
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    We have talked about trying to spice up our sex life. We have talked and tried new positions, toys, even role playing, but nothing seems to work. I don't think that it has to do anything about psyche problems, but you never know. Im not wanting her to be a porn star, i just want her to be able to please both of us. She is willing to participate, but i don't think that she ever gets into it like i do. I try and be sensual with her, but it never works. I try to be intimate, but she just wants me to bang her till she is sore. Thats what sucks about this sex is there is no passion in it.
     
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    Ok, I want to help you man, I really do, but can you be more specific? What is not working for you? What is not working for her? What about her being pleased? Does she orgasm/ Do you have oral sex? Does she just not get off? If you can nail down some concrete problems, i.e. I go down on her but she just doesn't like it, or she doesn't know how to give head it would be most helpful!!! ;)
     
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    This was the case with my boyfriend and i for the first 2 or 3 months that we were sleeping with each other. it was just horrible sex.
    His birthday and my birthday were a week apart and for them he bought us both dvds from that Tristan Taormino's expert guides range.. there were dvds on cunnilingus and the g-spot for him to watch and one on fellatio for me to watch (and one on anal which he refuses to let me watch! :( )

    At first i was SO UPSET.. that for my birthday i got told that i was shit at giving head and i had to learn to give him blowjobs, but it's nearly 3 months on and they have just made us both more confident and willing to try new things and the sex is getting better every day! i really recommend them!