how do i tell her i want the baby without making the choice for her?

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  1. honeynuthornyos

    honeynuthornyos New Member

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    I dont want to be "that guy". she had an abortion in september and iknow its really effecting her. she keeps saying we arent ready but financially i am. I just dont want her to abort him or her and regret this for the rest of her life. i dont want this to put a wedge between us later down the road.
     
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    So, are you saying that she had an abortion in September and now she's pregnant again? If this is the case and you feel you're ready to be a father, then the right thing to do would be to sit her down and explain this to her in a calm and rational manner. Tell her that you're ready and willing to accept responsibility and settle down and start a family. However, DO NOT pressure her. The decision is ultimately up to her. From what you've described of her she seems to have some maturity issues. If she's not ready to become a mother yet then that's her prerogative.
     
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    She is mature most times. the issue is that this past abortion seems to haunt her. she seems to revert back into who she was at 20 at times. i just want her to be happy but i dont know how that can be if she gets the abortion. i know she will look at me differently ifshe gets it.
     
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    From reading all your posts it sounds like you have so many issues that the last thing you should be considering is having a baby.
     
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    ditto!