How do I teach my friend to masturbate?

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by Barbwire, Feb 24, 2009.

  1. Barbwire

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    I have a friend that is in her late 40's and I just found out today that she's never masturbated. :eek

    Now, I'm dying to teach her how. I need some pointers. Please keep in mind I will not ACTUALLY be touching her or allowing her to see how I masturbate.

    Anyone have any ideas?
     
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    Pornography? I'm sure that you can find videos of girls masturbating on Redtube.
     
  3. Barbwire

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    Hell no! If I wanted to teach her how to fake it, I'd send her there, but I want to her actually orgasm from it. Besides, she doesn't have a computer.
     
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    Thanks Ninja. I'm trying to figure out how to approach her about it without scaring her or making her think I'm a perv or something. She's Asian and also a Catholic, so has some very deep-seated issues when it comes to talking about things of a sexual nature. I'm still shocked that she admitted to me that she's never masturbated. I wonder if she's even had an orgasm before.
     
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    You say she doesn't have a computer so I suggest when you find something you think appropriate you print it out and give it to her. I am sure you will have no problem finding sites with good info.
     
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    Write about one of your own masturbation sessions, that you have had on your own without your SO or cyber lover, (we all love your stories, so keep posting,.....please.) and have her read it and ask for her opinion on it. This way you will be giving her ideas without a direct approach.

    Or, you could by her a small, cheap (but good) collection of toys to get her interested in play on her own.

    Sorry if they are not good ideas. I couldn't imagine and do not know what it is like not playing with myself on a regular basis, with or without a SO. It should be a natural thing for women since we lack the ability to function and cum as easily as a man.

    Other than that, I say what you said was a no go, let her watch or personally show her how.
     
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    I always take masturbation as practice for sex, especially for women, and it's possible that she has not had an orgasm, unless she has a skilful and expert partner. Unfortunately Catholicism has a very negative attitude towards sex whereas the protestant churches have become more enlightened over the last 20 years or so. This negative attitude towards sex in general, and the concept of masturbation being a sin, isn't going to help you.

    With a protestant the usual thing is to point out that sex is not a sin, and God is not looking over our shoulders when we make love, or when we learn to pleasure ourselves. This is how I taught my wife to be more open with sex, although she had masturbated regularly before we got married. I don't know if this approach will help or not, but it's the best I can come up with.
     
  9. Barbwire

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    Thanks for the ideas and thank you, Squirt, for saying you like my dirty stories. ;) I just might find some info on the interweb and print it out for her as well as giving her some copies of my stories.

    I hope that she can loosen up a bit and be relaxed enough to explore her body. She is in the middle of a divorce from a man that beat her and she told me their intercourse was painful. I can only imagine what that asshole did to her. :(
     
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    I just reread one of my posts here, and I think I came across a bit wrong. I didn't want to sound like a judgemental pigeon-holing moron. The reason why I mentioned her being Asian and a Catholic at all is because she is the one that told me its because of those things that she's so uptight about sexuality.
     
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    Hey but wait a minute..........you are a perv aren't you? :lol
     
  12. Barbwire

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    Well, yeah, but she doesn't have to know that. :lol