How do I ask my boyfriend...?

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  1. minarchist

    minarchist New Member

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    Okay, so I recently saw a thread on here about guys shaving their pubes, and I'm don't necesarilly want my boyfriend to do that, but I think I would like it more if he trimmed his pubes and maybe shaved his balls. I just think that it would be more pleasurable for me when I am giving him oral (so that I'm not getting hair in my mouth!).

    We have been together for 2 years and I can talk to him about pretty much anything but I have no idea how to bring this up. I think I'm afraid of making him feel like I'm critisizing his appearance. How do I ask him to partake in a little "manscaping"? :p
     
  2. ctown75

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    Just tell him

    Years ago I wanted to shave my wife,but she was afraid of the irritation so I started to clip her pubes with scissors and 9 years later I am still doing it and it always leads to great sex after I am done,so just tell your boyfriend you want to try something which will lead to more sex and be very careful.I would not do the balls.
     
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    Just like in ctown's situation, you could ask him if he would mind if you did it for him. And maybe show him what it could lead to :brow.

    Being a trimmer myself I really don't see how it would be a problem for him.
     
  4. heelfetish

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    Agreed with those above. :) I started shaving before my wife did, and I always liked being smooth. One night I asked her if she'd like to try it sometime. She wanted to, but was nervous about it. So a little while later we made a date of it, I trimmed then shaved her myself. I was very careful and very gentle, and we had some of the best sex ever immediately after. :brow
     
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    Guess it's because im from holland but almost everybody shaves here:)
    And i take it you shave to for a reason so he can go down on you better and nicer it's the same reason why he should shave:)
    And if you explain that it is nicer for you to give him oral he should be thankfull that you are thinking of how to pleasure him more:) and a bit of yourself ofcourse;)
     
  6. minarchist

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    Yes, I keep myself eithher shaven or waxed (and I want to get electrolysis eventually). :p
     
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    Trust me he shouldnt mind it if he loves you. Most guys will do a lot of things to recieve oral. Its only fair for us guys to clean up if we expect the girls to.
     
  8. AnonymousOne

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    Just ask. I mean with a pair of guarded clippers the top portion is a piece of cake and if he DOES decide to shave his sack then it's just about being cautious.

    Oh BTW your screen name = awesome.
     
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    I would just be direct and ask him, "hey, what do you think about shaving this?" He'll benefit from the increased pleasure sensation just as much, if not more, than you not getting hair in your mouth.

    Let him read others forums from guys who shave.
     
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    Do you watch porn with him? If so every guy in porn is shaved so just make a comment how nice it looks and suggest he try it. Tell him it looks cleaner and neater and you'd be more willing to do oral then
     
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    try "Would you trim yourself for me?" :p I always find being straightforward about sex is the best way.
     
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    I agree with the others. Offering up more blowjobs will pretty much do it. Asking him is fine too. If he says no, offer him a good blowjob if he does it.
     
  13. minarchist

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    I already give him blow jobs whenever he wants though. :p I guess I'll just be straightforward and ask him, or do it while we're watching pr0n, like someone else suggested.
     
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    Just wondering.... are you shaved or trimmed?
    That would be a great "lead-in" statement, as if you ARE, it would be appropriate for him to reciprocate. If you AREN'T, perhaps some mutual hair-removal sessions would be a fun way to introduce the new feeling. To both of you.
     
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    I don't do it anymore but I used to use Nair on
    my balls, Also i loved to apply Nair to the wife's pussy, You just cant
    get more up close and personal than if you do it to your partner.
    So ask if you can shave him or use Nair. I know that some people have a
    dislike for Nair, But that's just the ones that haven't tried to use it.
    No stubble grows back, No razor burn no rash, Just a Downy soft regrowth
    after about 1 month.
    And by all means ask him to do yours.

    Hiker
     
  16. minarchist

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    I've never tried using nair because I've always heard that it doesn't work well and can irritate skin, but since you guys seem to like it I'm definately going to try it now.
     
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    Ask him while you're giving him a blowjob. Guys will be much more into things while we're getting head.
     
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    Tell him that shaved skin is more sensitive. :brow My wife likes when I shave my balls...she says my nuts taste sweet when they are shaven. Of course, maybe that's because I carry two coffees and six donuts. ;)

    BD
     
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    I would recommend just being direct about it, and say something like you're sick of getting pubes in your mouth and would therefore like him to trim and/or shave his balls, etc. There's no need to step around his feelings. Most men prefer that you be as direct as possible, because hints of all kinds: subtle, medium, or obvious, don't work on them.
     
  20. heelfetish

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    I have had terrible luck with Nair. After hearing all your suggestions, I even gave it a try again this summer. Burning, irritation, and it didn't even remove all the hair! :mad It is NOT recommended for pubic areas, and for damn good reason IMO. I'm very happy it works for you, Hiker. However it seems the majority that post here have an opposite experience.

    Try it if you like, but I strongly suggest trying it on a SMALL area away from the pubic region first.

    Everyone is different. It sucks that you have had bad experiences, but most people seem to do OK with shaving. You made zero references to your technique, so we don't know if there's anything to suggest that might make your experience more enjoyable. If shaving results in irritation, trimming might be a better option.