How do I ask my boyfriend?

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by Angelbabiey2003, Jan 6, 2005.

  1. Angelbabiey2003

    Angelbabiey2003 New Member

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    Hey! I have a question for everone out there. Ive never been with anybody as 'well endowed' as my fiance. And when we got together it was hard to have sex, and when he did get in it was very painful. Now I do seem to enjoy it becuase I have gotten use to it, and I LOVE it now, and how it fills me up :brow

    But ive been fantizising about my man with another woman for quite some time now. I am sexually attracted to other woman. I just imagine a very cute small petit girl taking everything my man has to offer, while I watch. I have dreams about this. The fact of the matter is I really want to do it, but I dont know how to approch him.

    Any help or opinions would be great.
     
  2. Frank Grimes

    Frank Grimes New Member

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    Okay, let me see here. You want your guy to fuck a cute, petite girl. Yeah, you'll really have to twist his arm to get him to do that one.

    You'll probably also have a tough time limiting him to just this one. He could take the liberty to screw every cute, petite girl he can find, because he may think you're cool with it.
     
  3. kbate

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    ok. it sounds like a real dilemma..... I hereby volunteer to be the first cute petite girl he does.
     
  4. Logger

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    Dear Angel Babie 2003,

    I think Frank Grimes described part of the problem you face. It is not only just how do you get what you desire, but how do you avoid getting more than you desired?

    One thing I enjoy with my wife is watching erotic videos. Ther may be certain phases of foreplay and lovemaking where having a porn video on the tube where you are loving each other may enhance your lovemaking and his satiation. So, from a more traditional approach, I could recommend porn, as an option. Porn can be misused and deteriorte a relationship. So it is not 100% safe. Probably 98% safe.

    There are boards dedicted to swinging and swinging issues. You could search for swinger forums. If you want to describe some more of the limits and boundaries for where you feel comforatable, and where you might feel jealousy.

    The other issue is how much self-control does your fiancee have? If you get him started with another babe, where is the switch to turn it off? Certainly some couples work this out. You might just bring up the subject of swinging with your fiancee, and see what his feelings are about the issue, in general. Is there a particular young lady you had in mind?

    Blessings
     
  5. A_Cassagne

    A_Cassagne New Member

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    I'd actually take the liberty of warning you against making such a decision, unless you really know yourself (and him) inside out. Perfectly intelligent and otherwise rational people are capable of monstrous irrational jealousy. An example: I lost my girlfriend this way (about 6 months ago), when we were at the point of getting engaged. It was her initiative, but her bisexuality did not help with the disgust and resentment that she began to feel all of a sudden. Briefly stated, she left me within the month and won't hear from me since. I should have known better than to agree.

    Also, swinging is an odd thing. In my experience, swingers are often sexually and emotionally disappointed people (all my apologies for swingers on this forum-- I am sure that there are some perfectly secure and functional couples who swing, I just haven't yet met any). The relationship within the couple is often not the kind you'd want with your fiancé. For better or for worse, human beings are emotional animals, and it is quasi-impossible to keep any kind of relationship (inc. one-night stands) purely sexual.In my opinion, anyway. I hope that others can encourage you with their experiences if you decide you want to pursue this :)
     
  6. ReNo

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    Ask him if he ever tried a 3 way. He will probably say no and ask you if you have. Then you can ask him if he wanted to ever try it. He will probably ask with another guy in it or a girl. Tell him a guy and that you want him to take it in the ass and he will be pissed - wait, I don't know where I was going with that one, but tell him with another girl and he will instantly be interested in the conversation.