sex never works out for me. I can get myself off but I dislike the way almost all guys fuck. In order to stay hard and get off most of them seem to need to keep penetration pretty constant once started. That turns me off so much and makes it nearly impossible for me to come. it's like with every thrust any semblance of sensitivity I was starting to build up is destroyed. The speed up makes me breathe too fast and unable to relax and enjoy...i start to feel pressured and such... Don't get me wrong, I love being penetrated, but when I do myself alone, well theres rarely any penetration of anything until after I cum and then I *might* go buck wild with my fingers bc it feels good after to release all the pressure that built up while I came. If I'm with a guy..I keep wishing he would put it in (maybe even only halfway...repeatedly) and take it ALL the way out everytime ..teasing me with it..making me wait..and then surprising me with a full thrust sometimes...and then making me wait more...keeps me guessing and such. Seems to me guys are generally either too eager to do this..or get blue balls..or cant stay hard... w.e I like to have long drawn out orgasms. once I get turned on enough that I think I can come, I immediately want to slow down and hang on to it and just get louder (not faster). This is when I want to really start being stimulated in other ways (talking - moaning - surprizing touches to keep me guessing - starting and stopping - anything really) Seems like even if a guy actually does get me to this point as soon as he hears the sounds i make and my breathing, its full on, in and out, harder and faster until...well..great im not even turned on anymore..sigh I feel it is nearly impossible to ask for what I want without either discontinuing wanting it...or not saying it in a polished enough way to walk on eggshells enuff around a mans ego.. basically..i never get mine... usually hurt a guys feeling unintentionally..and even with years of trying to figure out how to make sex work for me..im still duped... I know what i want..just not how to get it so anyways...I basically settle for pleasing myself when im alone..and then later letting a guy fuck me silly with my legs all up (not for me to come but to relieve the pressure i built up when i made myself come maybe the day b4) in a way..that is very satisfying...but i Do wish I could come on a cock.. O well Any advice would be greatly appreciated. This is such a sensitive topic and I have tried to work around it with bf's in real life only to wish I had never mentioned it. I'm really hoping asking unbiased guys will get me somewhere! Thanks!