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Discussion in 'Ask a Guy/Girl' started by fantasien, Mar 5, 2009.
Playing with a strap on with your partners?
I did it once and loathed it. It made me feel uncomfortable, silly and like I was going something so foreign and weird. I'll never do it again.
Realy? And your the only poster.
I was wondering how others felt about this kind of situation. Could you tell me more?
Yes, really. Here's the story in a nutshell...
Hubby and I were spending the weekend at a hotel. Across the street from the hotel was an adult toy store. We went in there to do some shopping. I picked out something for me, and hubby picked out something for him. I was kind of surprised that he chose a strap on harness that came with a couple of attachments. He had mentioned the strap-on thing before, but only in passing.)
We got a bottle of wine and went back to the room. After chilling out for a bit, we used the vibe I got for me and I had an orgasm. I went into the bathroom and put the harness on, then attached the smaller of the two dildos to it. It looked silly no matter how I tried to hook it up, it just looked ridiculous.
I walked into the bedroom feeling like a fool, but managed to pretend I was really hot and bothered at the thought of fucking him. I lubed up and tried to do him while he layed on the bed on his back feet in the air. No go.
He got off the bed and assumed the doggy position. I managed to penetrate and move about a bit...getting ZERO feedback from him. I kept asking if he liked it and he said, "yeah" but I wasn't sure. I fumbled about for a bit, feeling humiliated and freakish, then finally gave up.
The whole experience made me feel sick. I hated the look of the thing, the feel of it and how it put me into a "man's" position. It was unnatural for me to move my hips that way, it felt WRONG. And........here's something that took me a while to admit, but here it is...it made me feel like my husband was kinda girlie.
I know that sounded closed minded and homophobic, but that's how I felt and I make no apoplogies for that.
I do use dildos on him and my fingers, I even rimmed him once. None of that brought about any of the feelings I had that night in the hotel room.
Hmm..wow! I never thought for that to be something that you would feel about this. Bit I guess I feel the same at times. I just feel like after I get aroused or even in the morning "wood" stage I feel like when I am turned on that my vagina is turned on and not my penis. And so when I experience that and I move to masturbate I feel silly, bored, satisfied and then regretable all at each stage.
I have always been feeling that whenever I am aroused I am female, and my arousal comes more from the female mind, but then I have these male parts! It's kind of a hate, but beautiful relation ship with my current sexual anatomy..
I was playing with a couple of girls and one got out a strap on and tried to have sex with another girl..... to tell the truth, it ruined all my fantasies of doing my hubby in the arse cause it looked ridiculous not sexy at all. They only did it for a minute or two and then we went back to fingers and tongues......
I hope I can get the fantasy back, but I would never act on it again....
P.S Porn always makes it look far more sexier than what it actually is lol
Thats for sure!