How can a girl be good in bed?

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  1. Mandy87

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    So it has been a while , but when I get a bf I dont wanna be horrible lol thats my one thing im scared about...so what are things i should know so im not "bad" at it?
     
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    Wow that's a tough one. Sometimes a lil shy is sexy. I say just be you. If your comfortable and enjoying who your with it will show.

    This answer could have gone another way
     
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    Takes two to tango and you never forget how to ride a bike.

    If your past partners had fun I'm betting you can get back in the swing of things pretty quick.

    Play it by ear and see how he reacts.
     
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    thanks guys but does anyone have actual tips? like what are reasons why girls suck in bed?
     
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    Mandy, what makes a girl "good" in bed is totally different with each individual. What might be good for one man may not for another. I agree with Big Tit Lover, if your past lovers enjoyed, try what you know. They will let you know if they don't like it. You could always "talk" to your new love and ask what they like. That might work better than anything else.

    I know T and I discuss every aspect of sex. We express all of our likes and dislikes and have since we've been together.
     
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    If you truly enjoy what you're doing your partner will pick up on that an enjoy himself too. The worst you could do is make a mental shopping list while he's trying to have a good time.
     
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    Participate in it. Move those hips, don't just lay there.
     
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    Don't be a dead fish
    Other than that in my opinion all the pressure is on the guy to perform
     
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    Deepthroating could never hurt.
     
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    Good suggestions all. I would suggest that you be honest, and don't fake anything.
     
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    I sent you a private message since it's a bit long.
     
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    Two words: confident and pro-active. Do this, and you will win over about 90% of men.
     
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    I believe in the age old advise: keep it simple stupid :)
    Get in bed and be enthusiastic!
     
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    With every sexual partner any one has, sex is an exploratory venture. Communication and plain-old-experimentation are the two best weapons to go into it with.

    I'd suggest you not open with penetrating his anus with your finger though. That'd be the only iffy situation I'd say you'd have to worry about beyond the more weird/fetish-esque facets.
     
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    This would depend on evry single person now, some find it normal and ordinary, some disgusting and too much. Like a GF I had once who would never let me give her oral sex because she found it degrading.
     
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    Which is why I made it a suggestion. It's kind of like suggesting someone not start a conversation by calling them a bitch without having talked much before hand. Some people may openly welcome the ernesty- others may not.
     
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    I believe it varies person to person talk before hand find out his likes and dislikes and focus on his likes. I like a girl that can be submissive yet take control at times, one that likes to explore thatngs, likes oral, makes me go damn when she rides me.....
     
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    As Mae West said, "Darlin', goodness had nothing to do with it."
    When it comes to the sack, bad is good, and the badder the gooder (so to speak).
     
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    What makes a guy think a girl sucks in bed is different reasons.
    Lack of motivation, or not showing it.
    Not talking and communicating
    Overdoing something would turn me off
    Not trying. You don't know until you try.
    Doing little things that a guy enjoys. Each guy is different .... communication!
    Not taking the time to know your partner sexually, AND knowing yourself.
    If you don't know yourself, give the guy a chance and give him a break.
    I say that from being with someone and not a lot went on, then another and KA-BOOM, WOW, things happened big time. I did the same normal things. It comes down to say every women are different so if you don't give a chance he won't enjoy you if there is no communicstion.
    Chemistry is a factor that will trump looks too.
     
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    hey which topic are you discussing here ?