Okay folks, need your adivse here. I have been asked by a fellow member if when my wife masterbates does she play with her clit and I had to answer, I don't know if she has ever masterbated before, I've never asked. I'm not quite sure how to ask her as I'm kind of embarrased to ask. I don't know why I should be, I've been married to her for 12 years. Our sex life is simply okay at this point. We did at one time (about 5 years ago) actually talk about swinging and I should have asked then but didn't. We did the photos of each other and again should have asked then. Since she has mentioned to me that she is glad we never did any of the wife swapping (I'm not). I would love to (BAM) spice up our sex. I need to (BAM) spice up our sex life as I feel it is getting really boring. Maybe this is the first step, asking her about masterbation. I love to do it myself but again feel embarressed to even mention it to her. What do I do?