I saw a question on a forum... about a woman asking if it was wise to start a relationship with someone who has erectile dysfunction... " Hi there I have recently started a relationship with a man who has erectile dysfunction due to an underlying health problem. He's a great guy, we get on really well and I'm happy when I'm around him. Plus I'm extremely attracted to him all the time. We're both in our late 30s and though I care for him I'm worried about starting a relationship where the sex is not going to be satisfatory. Though he's great with his hands and orally the fact that he cannot maintain an erection makes things tough. I enjoy penetrative sex and often need it to orgasm. Oral doesn't seem to work for me for that and I worry because it's doubtful whether we'd be able to have a normal sex life. The damage that has occured is irreversible. I've experimented with toys and they're alright but they're no substitute for the real thing. I always think about how devasting this is for someone this young to be dealing with such a problem. He's dealing with things remarkable well though he's finding it extremely tough. He's going through the range of options with his doctors right now and he's tried a couple of treatments. None of which are working very well at the moment. I don't know what to do. Is it stupid to throw away a relationship that has so much potential to be fantastic because the sex isn't 100% what we'd like it to be or should I just wait and see. I'd hate to embark on this and then later pull away because of that but then I worry about commiting and later feeling like I'm craving what I miss elsewhere. Would love to hear your thoughts. Thanks," I personally, couldn't I know it sounds selfish, but I am being honest. Sex means alot to me and is VERY important in a relationship. I think this woman really likes the guy, but I know for a fact, she will feel resentful when time progresses and problems are still present and she is not getting any satisfaction, then, every other aspect of the relationship will be horrible... What do you think?