[Ask a Guy] Hiding Porn

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  1. AGFUNK

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    Why would you hide the porn you watch from your partner?
     
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    I dont, instead i watch them with my girl. But its my question too, why some guys are so much secretive about this
     
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    My ex was, or still is I guess, a catholic and apparently I was meeting the devil every time I did or I was visually cheating on her..... Ohh don't get me started. :(
     
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    I think I might just ask him. Or not bring it up at all, not sure yet. I'm not mad. I don't care if he watches porn I just wish he wouldn't lie about it. I don't hide my porn.
     
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    One short answer is fear of judgement from you. As sexually driven as we men are we are also taught to be ashamed of our sexual urges that don't involve actual intimacy with an actual woman. also women tend to take porn as an attack against themselves, as evidence of a ungrateful man with unrealistic expectations of the female body.. you sound like a very respectable and understanding partner, but I guarantee he expected you to shame him for the content or t/f the porn was viewed. You CANNOT simply expect him to treatporn as you do, apples/oranges situation which will end in a fight.
     
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    Oh if he was me I would love for you to tell. I spent along time thinking that porn ain't good thing and it's frowned upon. A many time getting called a pervert by someone I thought I loved and that was just at the soft core Shit haha but if I was with a lady that enjoy that stuff to Ohh that is what I'm longing to find, just so we can experience it together because I know if that was the case my god the sex would be unbelievable and fucking comments like "Oh ok, what you doing now? Where you get that from? Or slow the fuck down!" Oh I have plenty of others lol... Those comments wouldn't be said lol. Anyway yes tell him, I think he be pleasantly surprised :))) or not... You know whatever but it is your right to question him why he does :)
     
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    It wasn't the type of porn I usually watch. Maybe he thinks I'd be disgusted by it. I'm not really.

    He is no where near as sexually driven as I am. I view porn as a means to get off quicker. I usually just watch men jerking off, getting caught, peegasms, etc. He watches hard core stuff. This time it was forced anal.
     
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    I've never had to hide it before, Usually if there was any porn movies , Books or toys bought, She was with me.:)
     
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    Lol AG obviously by being a part of this forum are you sexually driven, but you're watching borderline softcore stuff with the intention of busting a nut..when you start perusing gangbangs and cumshot compilations out of pure curiosity, and he knows about it, I guarantee he'll stop hiding it...unless he's into illegal stuff(a different matter altogether)
     
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    Yes, I've watched that as well as bondage and domination. He just never looks at my history and I don't have the time like he does.
     
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    I don't hide mine. She doesn't either. What's the point? It's just porn. We watch it together, we watch it by ourselves. We know we both like it, and use it as a means to get off. There's no point in hiding anything.
     
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    Well as long as you're not offended by what he watched then you're in good shape. If you must confront him about hiding it, tread lightly, no matter how illogical it may seem any annoyance or negative emotional response you put out will justify for him why he hid it in the first place. This forum seems to be a haven for the sexually expressive, but you can never forget, the average man in the West has been shamed into hiding porn away. I too would be skeptical if my gf said my porn watching didnt carry consequences. It sounds like a trap...lol
     
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    I would jerk off while you watch would live to watch you masturbate too!
     
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    It's a habit.
    Most boys hide their porn and pictures of naked ladies from their parents while going through puberty. We just continue doing that even after moving out.
     
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    I had asked him about it and he told me that he didn't think I wanted him watching hard core porn that's usually sadistic. I told him that I didn't care and that I would like to know what he watches on occasion.
     
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    I do because she doesn't like the idea I need to wank when shes not around
     
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    Whilst I don't hide it I don't necessarily show her my browsing history because I feel that it is my private activity.
    We all need a private space and to me this is one.
     
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    From observations:
    1. a guy I used to hang around with, unhappy at home and looking after his sexual release through porn
    2. Another guy either curious or whatever looking at some porn. Wife hating it, maybe insecure, unimpressed or both

    I met women who watch porn to get relief too, one of them an ex FWB.
     
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    Because it makes some women feel insecure and inadequate. They compare themselves both physically and sexually to pornstars. Also, the hiding aspect makes them angry.
     
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    i dont need to hide porn? There's a lock on my phone already lol
     
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