Hi, newbie here

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Nycblonde, Jul 4, 2013.

  1. Nycblonde

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    Hi, I am naturally a sub .. I grew up in the Deep South but now live in NYC. I've been dating someone who claims to be Dom, yet it seems he's more into trying to humiliate me than control me.. I am in love with him, yet I cannot do the things he is asking of me.. Sheer dresses no under garments at 5 star NYC restaurants. Keeping me up for days on end.. He knows I support myself, I pay my own bills.. That I not go to work, I've already exhausted all my sick days and vacation days for him.. Yet hes demanding more. He came to my job the other day demanding sex., at my office, where I am upper management... Please any advise help is appreciated.. He refuses to listen to me until I bend to his demands
     
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    Dump Him ..................... Oh and Welcome
     
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    Agree...dump him.
     
  4. Amature

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    I agree. Dump him, the sooner the better, and welcome.
     
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    A true D/s couple respect each other. They can also separate the lifestyle from inappropriate places such as the workplace, fine dining as well as other inappropriate public displays. A Sir who loved you would not make you jeapordize your career, or puplic self respect.

    This man obviously is a control freak with serious mental issues. Ditch him now. There are plenty of Sirs out there that would appreciate what you have to offer. It sounds like this guy learned how to be a Dom in Second Life and has no clue what a true D/s relationship is in real life. Run for your life.

    xx
     
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    Well said Cappy
     
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    Agreed 100%.....
    Get rid of this idiot before he costs you more than your job, your sanity and your self respect.....:coocoo
    Welcome to SF too.....:welcome
     
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    Ditto all the above and if need be slap a restraining order on him.
    Nobody has the right to treat you that way if it is against your wishes.
    Oh yeah, welcome here :)
     
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    Welcome Aboard ! Wishing you the best with all that is going on. Your always welcome to come back Down South
     
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    hello, and welcome
     
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    Another one that is going to agree 100% It is the duty of a true Dom to make sure that the sub is taken care of mentaly,physicaly healthy, no harm is to be done or boundries pushed to the point of disgrace.
     
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    All aboard the Cappy train. Can't say it any better than that.
     
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    Be your self and stop your relationship with him just break off and let him fuck him self
    Dont reply his SMS and dont answer him when he call you and if he come to your office kick him out and ask security not to let him in ( Tell him Fuck off from my life ) and its over everything in your hand and you control the situations
     
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    Agreeing with Cappy as well. Welcome to :sf
     
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    What Cappy said.

    and any D/S relationship should have consent/trust at it's core.

    a true dominant has the best interest of his/her submissive above their own and should understand what her/his limits are, how far to push those limits, and be more than willing to renegotiate appropriately as the relationship grows.

    No Dom is perfect, a lot of us learn on the fly, but there should be basic ground rules laid down and respected by both parties.
     
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    Agree with all the above. Can't say I am familiar with the dos and don'ts of sub/dom relationships but if someone is forcing you to do stuff that you really don't want to he has crossed boundaries and needs to stop or be shown the door.
     
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    Welcome!!
     
  18. CaramelLady

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    Welcome to SF!

    He has got to go. Let the doorknob hit him where the good lord split him. You may love him, but you should love yourself also.

    I do not know a lot about Dom/Sub relationships but I do know that it should not work like this.

    Good luck to you,
    Caramel