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Discussion in 'Member Introductions' started by crayola, May 9, 2007.

  1. crayola

    crayola New Member

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    Hey everybody,

    This is my first thread on a sex forum. Let me say that I'm very excited to converse in such an amicable atmosphere, where no awkwardness or pressure pervades. The internet is a great thing.

    Here is a little about me, my relationship and my current situation:

    I'm a college student, a biology major who doesn't really enjoy biology at all. I've been with my girlfriend since day 1 of college; we met at a freshman party. I was a virgin at the time and she was coming out of her only sexual relationship, so we rushed into sex quickly. Almost three years later, I love her to death, but am beginning to feel uneasy about my sex life.

    For the first year or two of school, we had a good sex life. We had sex often, and it was great, not just the act, but the total experience, from foreplay to cuddling. Yet, in the last six months, our sex life has suffered for a multitude of reasons. As a result, my confidence has suffered (I am an insecure male after all), and that has caused even more damage to the sex life. Instead of swirling in this spiral, I want to swim out of it; I want to become a better lover.

    Currently, my girlfriend is experiencing vaginal bleeding during/before sex. This is probably due to a birth-control problem, or some sort of infection. It will be resolved shortly, I imagine, after her visit to the Gyno. This problem has been prevalent for a while, and it has severely hampered our sex life. Compounding the problem is our non-coinciding schedules. In a nut shell: it's very hard for us to find the time, privacy and motivation to have great sex. I'm normally a confident guy, but because of this lack of fulfilling sex, I feel insecure and small. How's the joke go? "What do sex and air have in common? Neither is a big deal until you aren't getting any."

    Anyway, my girlfriend's anatomical problem should be resolved soon, and I want to re-invigorate our sex life. I think that doing this now will save us a lot of hassle down the road, when we seriously begin assessing our long-term future. Therefore, you will see that my initial threads will be aimed at two objectives: How to increase my performance (mostly my stamina and timing), and how to allow her to have more orgasms/pleasure.

    Though a rather novice lover, I think I can lend some sagacious suggestions in the relationship section of this forum. Though I am no porn star, I can attest to being part of a very strong, supportive, resilient and loving relationship. And I would love to be able to proliferate this feeling to all of you.

    If anyone has read all of this, thank you so much. When you read my threads, I hope you can offer better insight, knowing a bit about my situation.

    ~Anon
     
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    [mouse]Welcome to :sf![/mouse]

    Your honesty and candor are well noted. I hope you find all the help & support you're seeking here. You sound like a genuinely nice guy. :)
     
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    Hello and welcome to :sf! Great introduction. :)
     
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    Welcome to :sf!
     
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    Hi & :welcome to :sf!
    ~Bella
     
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