Hesitant with butt play

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  1. kipro150

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    My gf has hinted for a while to do put her finger in my butt, but before being with her I was kind of adamant about my butt being a "out only" situation lol.

    We've kind of tried a couple times in the shower but just get all tense and start laughing and cant really take it seriously

    I think it's just years of thinking it was gross, along with being self conscious of hair and of course smell. But supposedly it feels good and shes wanted to try it for a while

    Do you just dive in and get over the fear? or get really drunk? haha
     
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    If you really want to take it seriously, have her put on a nitrile glove, get her finger slick and shiny with lube, and get ready for a great time.
     
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    ew

    :lol
     
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    lol. glove would be a mood killer. would feel like im at the doctors office

    role play maybe lol
     
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    why not to let her jus to finger

    :lol
     
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    Well if your lady has nails, I'd suggest cutting them or glove it :) don't want to tear anything in there and cause an issue :eek:
     
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    say, mord, is it possible jus to get them dull or something

    :lol
     
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    lol. i have felt like i was more open to it during a bj and her hands are roaming. But i felt unclean in those couple times so I didnt tell her I was thinking about it haha. Then right after a shower it feels too..forced er something. I dunno. It's a weird topic with me for some reason lol.

    haha. yea thatd be bad. Her nails arent crazy long but a little bit. She brought up a glove since she can be a germaphobe but both of us think it feels weird with a glove. Maybe shell walk around with a short pointer fingernail and longer on the rest haha

    I'm leaning towards doing it eventually. just trying to get my mind fully into it
     
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    Or you could get a simple plug/bullet. They're inexpensive, and may lighten the goofiness of the situation.
     
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    A glove will help them overcome the grossness factor they are concerned about.

    Edit: It will also help make it more "serious." Putting on the glove and getting ready will help build the anticipation.
     
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    are you worried it gonna hurt

    :lol
     
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    I see nothing gross about it, it is her intention, super sexy

    :lol
     
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    not really. I do worry im going to be too tense and it'll be impossible to do it right
     
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    explain right
     
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    get to the prostate and have it feel good instead of feeling forced/not feeling good
     
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    but you may not have a prostate orgasm at all
     
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    Role playing is good. Besides, your girlfriend will be doing things with her finger that a doctor would never do. ;)
     
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    yea i wouldnt expect it on the first go.

    I think i just need to shower and drink a little before and tell her that itd be better during a bj. if it doesnt work, a bj is a good consolation price haha

    thanks for listening to my rambling
     
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    I guess you gotta do that like that so the next time you won't need it

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    mord and meee gave you some realy good advice also you might want to take this into consideration. If she does have nails and happen to scratch the inside of your anus a infection could happen. I feel if you going to have this in your sexual life then you should be willing to do it right so the experience is great for both. Also use good lubes. If the gloves is going to throw you off then do the role play. Nurse in high heels white stocking short skirt no panties and see threw top. Then you can be the construction worker that lifted to much and need a full exam top to "bottom"