Here's my dilemma...

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  1. Goldenboy

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    This may get a little long-winded, so bear with me...Recently my longtime girlfriend gave me the old "I'm getting bored with our sex life" schtick. I'm not exactly sure what to do or where to go next, as I've been open to everything she's brought up along with stuff of my own. Roleplaying, costumes, any position, cumshooting, anal, bondage, VERY rough sex, even indulging a rape fantasy of hers. We're talking about doing some filming, but I doubt that'll be enough. And yet, she's still bored somehow. She told me to watch porn for ideas, but as many know, I'm sure, porn is extremely limited as far as creativity is concerned. Neither of us are interested in multiple partners, so as you might imagine, I'm at my wit's end (which some may consider a short trip:eyes ). The biggest problem is that she says she has crazy ideas of things she wants to try, but she won't tell me because she wants me to start coming up with more ideas (granted, she comes up with more than I do).

    Any ideas?
     
  2. Barbwire

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    Here's an idea, fly her here and have my husband fuck her, then she'll know what boring sex really feels like.

    Seriously, if you are doing all of the things you mentioned and she's still bored, she's pretty spoiled, I'd say.
     
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    CL you are too funny :lol I agree she sounds like she is already getting a good variety. If she has the ideas she should throw them out there.
     
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    Seems like you're doing your part so make her come up with the ideas from now on. I doubt she really does have any or else she'd tell you. Right? CL's right.. She is spoiled.
     
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    she does sound a little spoiled, but just for kicks have you guys tried sex in public places and if you have try in different places then you have before, just the newness of a public place might do it for her
     
  6. Goldenboy

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    Thanks for all the feedback! Cowboy Lover, your answer was just :lol :lol :lol ...The consensus seems to be that she's spoiled, and I might have to agree. I talked to her again about it yesterday, and she still didn't know exactly how to put it in words, but it was along the lines of me getting more "freaky," I think. She's been doing a lot of modeling lately, and some of it's been on the more gothy/fetishy side so I know a lot of her interest is in the direction of fetishism and bdsm. So, I suppose I'll have to look a bit more into that area and see if anything piques my interest.

    PS: To ckjacobus, yes, we've done some public stuff, but not for awhile. It didn't seem to work that well for her, but maybe I'll give it another go someplace new.;)
     
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    Maybe you should think about calling her names ... or being very descriptive in bed ... dominating her while being descriptive in what YOU want .... just throwing things out here.

    Later ~~~ Angel ~~~
     
  8. Goldenboy

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    The names thing I already do, and get quite filthy about it. It works wonders for both of us. I like the second idea, though...hmmm...:dgrin :dgrin :dgrin
     
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    Good as usual CL! :lol
     
  11. Rose

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    Oh, Geezus!! I'm dying, here!!

    Living with a nympho, perhaps? Not a 'judgmental cal', just an observation.
    Feeding an insatiable sexual appetite can be a problem (though many guys would LOVE to have this "problem").

    She may be on a sexual journey of her own. Learning her own limits.... finding her own comfort zone... feeling so free with you, that she can reach for the highest mountain (sexuallly) and still feel confident about being safe and loved.

    It still leaves you in a quagmire - as you feel you are not meeting her needs. But in essence, you ARE! She is going higher and higher, all the while, knowing that she is with someone who will not judge her or put her down. Don't feel like a failure. Rather, enjoy the journey you both are taking. I sense you feel a bit inhibited about her requests, but you, too, can learn from this experience. As you help her to be set free sexually, allow YOURSELF to enter the experience totally. It's certainly a growing time, if nothing else.

    jmho

    :rose
     
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    I'd agree. Geez - there are so many ways to have sex how can one get bored?
     
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    Well said Rose, I believe you on to something.
    So go fly with Her and by all means join a club (Swinging) where everything is open
    and let Her show it off while the two of you have sex together. Also have you put Her over your lap and gotten Her ass red. Maybe get Her into a threesome. But whatever you
    do don't give up, Take it to new heights. Most Guys here would love to have your problem.

    Hiker
     
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    The solution is simple and it is not coming up with ideas. Instead it is building up your relationship and taking time for each other. Your sex life is borning for one reason the two of you rush to have sex but don't take time to be with each other. I am not necessarily talking about going to the movies, out for an expensive dinner, or taking a trip. Instead I am talking about taking time to talk about your day, common interests, and world events. If you cannot even hold a basic conversation and build up your relaitonship then having animalistic Tarzan sex won't cure it either.
     
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    I agree 100%...
     
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    True, true...
     
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    TRANSLATION: She wants to fuck other guys (and maybe other girls) and she doesn't have the heart to tell you that. She wants you to come up with that idea on your own by watching pornos, so that she doesn't have to tell it to you.
     
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    didnt he mention that he didnt want to get into that?
     
  19. Goldenboy

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    :lol Nope, she's made it pretty clear swinging isn't an interest (although, if I had to say you were close on anything, it would be the prospect of other girls, but that might even be a stretch).
     
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    have you thought about kamasutra