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  1. youngndumb

    youngndumb New Member

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    Im a 20 year old guy (about to be 21 ahh) and ive never successfully had sex. I am the only one out of my friends who has never had sex and I cant talk to them about it because i will be the laughing stock of the group, they all just assume Im "active." I have so much anxiety about it I cant stay hard. Ive been inside my girlfriend but i just go limp. I can cuddle, kiss, foreplay and get a boner no problem most of the time. I have received and given oral sex without a problem but when it comes to penetration I freak out. I worry about pleasing my girlfriend and my inabilities and when I cant perform it just perpetuates the cycle. Ive gotten over my size issue that every guy seems to go through, but its more than that. My first real girlfriend broke up wiht me because of this and my last serious relationship just took a nose dive. I am sorta being given another chance but im just going to fuck it up again. I have alotta love to give and feel horrible that i cant please my girlfriends sexually. I feel like i have lost my "manhood" if that makes any sense. I know I am going to be told to see a specialist. . . i dont have insurance or money (if its even covered) and im too embarassed to see ANYONE about it. I really dont know what to do I think about it all the time and it is really affecting my life. Any advice would be much appreciated. take care all.
     
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    You need to try to loosen up a little. It seems you are putting to much pressure on yourself to perform. Just let it happen and don't worry about all the details. Trust me, anxiety will cause you to lose your erection. The best advice, go with the flow.
     
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    I'd suggest you try some Viagra, Cialis or Levitra, just to get yourself "over the hump" so-to-speak. Your doctor might give you a free sample if you can afford the price of a visit.

    I wouldn't plan on using it for an extended period of time, just long enough to get the job done a couple times so you aren't so stressed about it.
     
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    YoungnDumb said:
    If you have the attitude that your going to fuck it up again
    you probably will. So take the attitude that you can
    And by all means listen to the 2 posts above me.
    And its true that your Doc. Will give you some free Calias or Viagara
    Probably both if you ask.
    It wont hurt a thing to try it

    Hiker:sf
     
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    yea i have read that it is physiologically impossible to be anxious and aroused at the same time... its a lot easier to say than do for me. I know, its all in my head, i do realize this but getting it out is the hard part. I can afford a doc visit, maybe ill give it a go. I just cant believe i need to get that shit already (I know you said just til im over the hump). I have always had the worst case of the what if's. Right now im thinkin what if i would need it for the rest of my life. What if people find out. Anyone know any breathing techniques that help you relax? You people are great wastin your time with chumps like me. thanks for the advice i appreciate it!
     
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