Long story short: I have fallen madly in love with another man at work – first time for both (man and work). I distance myself from him and restrict our relationship to work stuff only, and I manage to keep those feeling safely tucked away (not repressed, just controlled). The problem is that he keeps coming to me in out-of-work situations and behaves very friendly and social toward me, which just gets all those feelings rolling again. There’s no point in acting on those feeling because he doesn’t feel the same way about me. I plan on telling him how I feel, so he understands without being confused and offended, and asking him to just back off with the friendliness and keep it to a work-basis only. Good idea or bad idea?