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  1. bcoogda18

    bcoogda18 New Member

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    here's my wrap


    i am 18.
    i am having serious sexual problems.
    back when i was 17 i had a very well sized penis. i never nutted until about 17 yrs. old. when i was with my girl at 17 i was horrible. we would dry hump and i would bust right way. had no discipline. since then i've had two girls and f'd things up with them as well. it's really embarassing and humiliating. i have recently started talking to a new girl and am very nervous.(as u can see i am desperate and searched online for help)

    i recently got into pornos like 4 months ago and i try to jerk off to improve. i think its only made things worse. for some reason my size has gone down and sometimes i bust without it being hard. it seems like i am now worse than what i was at 17. at least then it was bigger and rock hard.
    i really need help. i'm about to lose it.

    should i have started at an earlier age?
    should i give myself more time?
    should i try pills or cream?
    give up masterbating? (heard it can be damaging)
    what should i do???
    thanks in advance! :(
     
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    I guess its just a presence of mind. Focus man. Also, get more on foreplay, girls love that then let her grope you. Don't get too excited and give and get more body and hand contact to get you going. And the tongue-fencing of course!
     
  3. wholetmydawgout

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    Hey bcoogda18
    I am going to have to agree with hero here. It is all in the mind. You do know that most pre-mature ejactulation cases are cured properly - why? Because it's all in the mind - you are really anxious about your performance (yes, there is actually a term for it - performance anxiety) and that's causing you more problems than you'd like. The more you're thinking about it, the more conscious you're getting about how to perform and then your mind starts playing with you and before you know it, you've lost it.
    Firstly, I don't buy that you are actually smaller in size now than you were then - tape up and reply back.
    In response to your questions:
    It doesn't make a difference as to what age you started at - for some the new experience is good while others have sex late in life and do really good. It's about how confident you feel when you're having sex. It's also equally important to make sure that she really enjoys it. As hero mentioned, a lot more foreplay - touch each other, play with her body, feel her curves, suck on her breasts, kiss the back of her neck/ears, make her feel special (cos she probably is) - also, go down on her - this way she might already be ready to cum even before you insert your thing in there.
    Second question, should you give yourself for what?
    3rd question, if you feel like you are incredibly sensitive down there, then you might want to go ahead and get some de-sensitizing cream - it can have certain side effects - for all we know, you might lose sexual sensation down there while performing and it might feel like you're getting a rug burn or NOT! It could work out just fine. But I truely do feel that you need some ego boost. I really think masturbating and trying certain techniques to control the length of your masturbation could really help you - you must train your mind to control ejaculation - really hard but when done well the potential benefits of it in bed are going to be great. One technique is to masturbate until you're almost about to cum and then to squeeze the head of your penis really hard and control it. Keep doing it and you will find that the duration of your masturbation will increase over time. Don't expect significant results in the first week - but remember that with every extra stroke you're getting better and better!
    Also, and I have found this personally, relax your lower back - for some reason, when you tense up your lower back, while it might give you the hardest hard on you can get, you are much more likelier to cum faster. Relax your lower back and stroke away - I am amazed as to how long I can stroke myself without cumming when I relax my back completely - doesn't feel that great but if you're thinking more about her than yourself (as it seems you are) it certainly is worth a shot!
    I wouldn't give up masturbating - rather use it as a tool to make you the stud you are in bed.
    Let her sexual energy flow through you and give it back to her.
    I really hope this helps. Reply back and keep us updated.
    A :)
     
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