Help, my penis is out of control!

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  1. WonderingAsh

    WonderingAsh New Member

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    Hello everyone, this is my first ever post on here, i've read through a heap lod of threads and everyone seems very nice!
    I've been reluctant in posting a thread on here about my 'Problem' because i thought it weren't a big deal and i could carry on without seeking advice.

    But I recently encountered a very embarrasing episode on a date and am desperate for some advice or even reassurance if that is the case.
    So to my problem, simply put, i get aroused VERY easily, the simplest form of affection could trigger a hard on, from a kiss to my mind wandering off while out with a person about what i could be doing with them. Theres also been an occasion where just someone expressing their feelings have set me off.

    It has affected my confidence dramatically, and i avoid going out on dates with attractive women a lot of the time incase i embarrass myself with a bulge in my pants from the simplest thing.

    Any advice on how i could control myself better or anything that could help me infact, would be greatly appreciated.

    Cheers, Ash.
     
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    First off Welcome !

    Not sure I'll be of too much help but the two things that come to mind..

    Would *taking care of business* at home just before leaving for the date help any ?
    And unless your packing like a porn star could you dress a bit more strategically when you know your going on a high priority date ? i.e- loose cargo pants, untucked nice shirt..Or something like that ?

    Ultimately its mind control and perhaps if you can recreate this situation in the privacy of your own home..(like a short porn clip maybe) Then try to force your mind in a different direction until you loose wood. Maybe prctic would make perfect and a better dating situation...
     
  3. SteveWaste

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    Hello and welcome from another newbie. There are a couple of things that you could try. The most simple is to masturbate before you go on a date: the old "There's Something About Mary" philosophy. You get your dopamine rush and your sexual release, and it become easier to think about things OTHER than sex (most times).

    Another thing you may want to try is supportive underwear. When I wear athletic shorts, I wear a jock or some compression shorts (bike shorts) underneath for several reasons; mainly to keep my guys where they belong and so the presence of my penis is not obvious even with low-level arousal. This works for me fairly well and I haven't sent any old ladies on any rants yet when I go running.

    Hope this helps you,
    ~Steve
     
  4. heelfetish

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    If there is a way to control arousal, I've yet to figure it out. I agree with Walt... Wear loose clothes, but snug underwear to contain it as much as possible. 'Clear the pipes' (love the 'There's Something About Mary' reference!) before any big dates, and try to 'think unsexy thoughts' (Simpsons reference) if you find yourself sportin' wood at an inappropriate time.

    Finally, be thankful. Just like you're told to think of all the starving Africans when you don't finish your meal; think of all the unfortunate men that can't get their soldiers to salute.

    Edit: Crap! Steve beat me to the punch(line)!
     
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    Another suggestion is adjustment after the fact. If you become aroused and have a pretty assertive erection, practice some inconspicuous adjustment when wearing a variety of pants. If it does happen to me say, at dinner, a movie, a club, etc... and it becomes a comfort issue, I have perfected adjusting mine straight up into the waistband of my pants.

    ***A word of caution about this though. I am unaware of the size of yourself or your wingman. Most of the time when I do this, my penis will extend up and out of my pants at least a full inch. This usually isn't a problem as my shirt easily conceals this, but I once had a girl who put her arms around me from behind and lifted my shirt to scratch my chest (she liked to do this a lot just casually). And in doing this, she exposed about an inch and a half of my erect penis to her mother who was standing directly in front of me. It would have been embarassing if she wasn't so cool about it. I started with an "I'm sorry," while she responded with a smile and "Don't be." Problem solved.

    Just be careful. Not everyone is as cool about it.
    ~Steve
     
  6. Fliteskates

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    When I first started dating my wife, I would get hard everytime she hugged or kissed me.

    I distinctly remember on the second date with my wife, I had to stop at my aunt's to get something... and she wasn't home. So we were standing on my aunt's deck enjoying the view and I was behind my wife, holding her... and everything seemed perfect.

    I went to the bathroom when my aunt came home and noticed I had a TON of precum all over my boxers and this became a recurring problem everytime I had any kind of physical contact with my wife for the first few months.

    I just figured whatever and told myself it meant I found her hot and my dick agreed.

    If it is the kind of thing that you can't get over, you could always take the extreme route and think of your grandma on the toilet...
     
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  7. heelfetish

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    Ewwww! :eek
     
  8. Trond

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    I just wanted to add one thought to ease your nerves a little: even if the last date disliked your reaction, many women are quite relaxed about it. For instance, some women get warm and wet "down there" when kissing, and she doesn't have to be a rocket scientist (no pun intended)to realize that the hard-on is basically the same reaction.
     
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    This is very true. If you've got a down-to-earth, nice, intelligent lady like most of them in this forum, you probably wouldn't have to worry about a thing. Most would probably be flattered. Ladies? yay or nay?

    ~steve
     
  10. Barbwire

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    I consider every boner I induce to be a badge of honour.
     
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    Flattered, yes. Or maybe I should say confident. Like the first time I kissed the guy who is now my boyfriend. By the second kiss, I felt something between us that hadn't been there a few moments before. I was reassured by that!

    And you know, guys are always scratching and adjusting, so adjusting your erection if you have to won't even stand out. Er, if you know what I mean.
     
  12. Dragon_Fire

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    Same here.
     
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    Yay, I think it is a big turn-on to feel that nice bulge after a simple kiss. I like to see men aroused PERIOD. And there is just something about it hiding in those nice pair of slacks or sexy jeans. MMmmmmmmmmm
     
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    Well Ash, there you go. You can clean the pipes before hand, try to hide it, adjust it, or just not worry too much about it as she will more than likely take it as a compliment that you're so aroused by her.

    Really a rather positive outcome as far as helpful threads go.

    ~Steve
     
  15. heelfetish

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    Keep this up, Steve, and you're going to make it to my list of favorite posters here. :)
     
  16. too_thick

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    I am not insecure about my bulge ,at lest not anymore


    + I keep it semi hard all day by going commndo :eyes