Help Me Please!!!

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  1. fastcar2000

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    Hi im 21 years old and ive had sex with one women who i was with for 3 years, but since splitting up with this girl, ive had a few women after her but never had sex with them, i find that i want sex all the time, but when sex is in front of me, i cant get an erection, this has happened on 3 different occasions now and happened earlier tonight it is getting to the point that its making me reli angry and frustrated, and obviously puts my self confidence down reli low, Its the first time ive thought about viagra, but apparently tescos stuff is rubbish and ive heard lots of bad things about Viagra in general. Ive even started wondering if im GAY.... Is it self confidence.... im not gay btw, its just options i need to sort through.... WHAT CAN I DO TO FIX THIS?!?!?!

    also id like to mention 2 times where in car it happened and once in the bedroom when i was a V. if this helps?!
     
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    You're not gay, sometimes anxiety can help performance, but see a doctor he can give you good advice
     
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    It's self confidence hun. You're just not ready to move on yet.

    I take it she's on the mind quite a bit :(

    You are young and don't need viagara yet. Get yourself of while looking in the mirror that might help with the self confidence
     
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    Surly Viagra will stop this from happening?! i remember when i was a virgin wanting sex, now it seems worse as if i can only have sex with my ex?!?! WTF's going on.
     
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    Viagra is powerful that's for sure. Psychosomatic impotence it sounds like
     
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    anxiety seems to make it worse? how would that help? thanks

    isn't that the answer then? thing is i don't understand the drug enough. for example when you ejaculate Will it still stay up? and not go down?! is there complications?! or can u take the right doses?
     
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    Anxiety will keep your mind wandering. You'll be thinking stuff like, is she enjoying this, am I hard enough, did I pay that bill last week. Stuff like that.
     
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    You know what Kermit, thats exactly what it is, least i have some form of diagnosis now, on the right track :)
     
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    To most people that might sound stupid, but i know where your coming from, Why does this happen? you know all day she was talking to me about sex, which shes never spoken 2 anyone about, especially a guy, and i was thinking about the last time in the car with a different girl, thinking shit might happen again plus being in a car park doesn't help. But other people do it in car parks, why cant i??
     
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    At your age you shouldn't need viagra.

    Weird question time: what about when you masturbate? Get hard then?
     
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    Anxiety, wanting too much, thinking about things too much.
    You still have the first one stuck in your mind?
     
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    OK this one depends, If i watch porn which i don't usually then yeah, but if i masturbate in the morning sometimes i might ejaculate but not get hard when not watching anything. :S plus im in comfort of my own room which helps. Bare in mind im 6 foot 4 and in the back of a Astra Coupe, room space maybe an issue?!

    A bit, and yeah your right, my heads all over the place. I always get Relax, but i seem 2 not. So maybe im naive in saying that viagra will make me hard anyway, and it wont matter how much thinking, wanting to much and anxiety stops me from getting there.

    So, What would be everyone's advice?
     
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    So take a chick into your room. Hotel room or anywhere other than a car. Places shouldn't matter.

    When I was 21 if the wind blew I got hard. Or even if I looked at the lingerie section of a Sears catalogue.

    Ya might go see a uroligist.
     
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    This has happened to me plenty of times and I'm the same age as you but I usually own it up to being faded. When I drink I have a lot of difficulty gaining an erection so what I'd suggest is that you have the girl go down on you. That usually does the trick. As for when I smoke weed somehow I retain an erection much easier. Don't know why. If you are taking any substances it can inhibit you from getting one. Even something so much as cigarettes will thin your blood.
     
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    Viagra works when the mind is willing but the body is weak. It won't work if the mind is weak though. If you're head won't get in the game, Viagra, Cialis, etc , won't do much.
     
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    Spring for a hotel? Have a drink to calm your nerves first.
     
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    i don't know if this is the same situation. when i'm with a new girl i usually don't get hard right away. it takes me like 20 minutes with every new girl, but i hide that fact through foreplay. after the first time, i get hard within seconds. can't explain it, but thats just how some people are.