Help me... i'm killing my sex life!!!

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Violett, Jun 26, 2007.

  1. Violett

    Violett New Member

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    I started an account here so that i could gather any infomation or tips or anything about how to be good in the woman on top position.... I'm only 20 and i've been with my boyfriend for over a year and i still haven't gotten the hang of riding him.

    I really don't know what i try to do i just know that it doesn't work for either of us. i usually end up getting frustrated and kill the mood completley leaving my poor boy to do all the work. thats if i even am still up for it... I can't stress how crap i really am and how much it makes me feel bad about myself!!

    my friends all tell me how easy it is and i guess that makes it harder. i've looked at almost every position site, read a fewthings here and there and watched a bit of poor but i still just cant work out howto fix it....

    please help me some how... because i'm so sick of ruining such a great thing and my boyfriend is going to have enough pretty soon...

    violett
     
  2. blueyedcouple

    blueyedcouple New Member

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    first of all RELAX...we all have things that we are uncomfortable with or have to "learn"..the woman on top position is a very stimulating position, you can move your body to what feels good for you..that is what is so great about this position..you are in control of the speed/depth. it is stimulating visually because your man can look at you from your head to your hips and you can watch him-look into his eyes and know that he is enjoying this. slide him into you and sit there for a minute, you can move up and down, grind, lean forward with your hands by his head and "ride", slowly or faster, he can put his hands on your hips and help you move, sit all the way up and lean backwards a little and he can rub your clit...but in this position RELAX AND LET IT FEEL GOOD...
     
  3. bighiker2003

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    Violet
    Don't let the position you are in bother you.
    Just go ahead and make love, Do a lot of kissing, A lot of just rubbing
    your pussy against him, And all the things you would in the missionary position.

    Hiker
     
  4. vampire raver

    vampire raver New Member

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    Yeah girl, relax, sex is fun not stressful, it relieves stress if anything at all

    the porn way is quite hard if you are not in shape or use to it, so get on your knees and stradle him and move down his body and grind into it, thats it, don't stress about it just relax and try to have fun,

    big smile (you smile) thats my girl

    seriously don't worry he is not going to leave you for not being able to do a postion and if he does find someone better, atleast you are trying a postion a lot of girls and guy are boring and only do missionary(only missionary)

    and personally I don't like that postion, I like to be in control
     
  5. Animularisen

    Animularisen New Member

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    I get the same feeling... When I'm on top i move && feel its doing nothing for him...
    && the only way I can have sex which makes him moan is if i bounce on him but thats bloodi tiring lol.... Could you possibly get him to slouch in a chair and sit on his cock tht way?
    Then you can slowly bounce on his cock whilst he holds it && holding the chairs/sofas back for support
     
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    vampire raver New Member

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    Ok I will tell you what is a very good aand easy position, I first enjoyed it,( I am getting hard thinking about it right now actually, sorry about that), when me and my SO were in the movie theater. I was seated and she had her ass facing me and was holding on the the seats in front of her and she was bouncing up and down on my cock it was quite nice I came quite quick.

    So if you can't there are others that are quite nice, so don't pigeon hold yourself on one postion, sex is very diverse. so just look around, for some other fun postions

    have fun good luck
     
  7. Fliteskates

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    Violett,

    My g/f is very sexual and knows me very well, but even she will ride me in a way that doesn't feel good once in awhile when she is kneeling down and facing me...

    If she isn't creating any kind of up and down movement, then it feels just ok. But once she gets in a rhythm of sliding herself up and down on my dick, it feels amazing.

    When she isn't moving in a way that feels good, I grab her hips and move her in a way that feels good for me. Then she will keep doing that motion and send me to heaven.

    If she is in a squatting postion, she is naturally moving up and down and it is the ultimate feeling. If she is facing away from me, she has alot of range of movement because she is rokcing back and forth into me, and that to feels great.

    Next time just climb on your b/f and face him, kneeling down. Then grab his hands and put them on your hips and tell him to show you what feels good for him. Then just mimic that movement when he removes his hands. It really isn't difficult if you just stop putting yourself down and do simple little things like this.

    Also, I would be doing your b/f a disservice if I didn't mention this...

    I said that when my girl isn't moving up and down very much on my dick it doesn't feel very good... and that is true.. BUT... alot of times when she is barely moving she squeezes her vaginal muscles around my dick.. it is like a bolt of electricity going through my body. It sends jolts of pleasure through my whole body.. because I don't expect it and it is like she is squeezing me with a warm, wet hand.

    So don't forget to try that also.