I could use some advice from the guys, about giving women oral. My husband and I have an active sex life as in we have lots of sex, (my libido is higher than his, but he bears more stress day to day, and I understand and accept the impact that can have on sexual energy.) Previously I've been happy to enjoy the bounty of sexual positions, quickies, rough sex, morning sex and lovvvve giving head, not particularly bothered by not receiving oral sex myself, and was fine with that. But I've reached a point where I really wish my husband knew my body better, and could use his hands and mouth more. It's less about "I love giving you head, why don't you return the favor?", than wishing he knew my body. We've been together 10 years, and I feel like it's time. Eventually, banging it out in every possible position runs its course, I guess. He's very reserved and conservative by nature, but has expressed no moral objections or dislikes to giving oral. It takes a pretty steamy evening to get him into that element of doing it, and when in that mood he seems to enjoy it, but gets frustrated within minutes when I don't climax from what he's doing. :ugh It's hard on both of us. He feels bad that he's not making me climax, and I feel bad that I'm not performing. His approach is stiff and rough with his hands and sloppy with his mouth.. it just doesn't work for me. but I don't want to correct him for fear of spoiling his mood by some degree of saying "No no, you're doing it wrong! Do this!... Do that!" (A wife corrects her husband enough, I don't wanna be a nag in the bed too! ) I've gotten the "She Comes First" book and read it with him, but he seemed overwhelmed by it, so I didn't push the issue. I'm at a bit of a loss ??? Guys, when you learned to give oral sex or navigate a woman's body with your hands, what were the most prized bits of technique you learned? What aspects of it excited you as you were learning, and made you look forward to doing it again? Anything I should NOT do? Have any pointers in general? :eyes We all put ourselves out there and feel vulnerable when learning a new sexual technique, I want to be sensitive to my man's pride, but also want him to learn what makes me tick, and gain the confidence of knowing how to handle his wife's body. Thanks!