help for my hubby

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by bounty hunter, Jun 25, 2007.

  1. bounty hunter

    bounty hunter New Member

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    I wish my husband would do more or at least try. He talks about how boring our sex life is but its his fault. I'm down for anything. I'll try anything once, but he is not. If I sugget anything he calls me a pervert. He has been my only partner, but I was not his.He has had several partners before me,he has been with older woman and younger woman and he says he has never done anything extraordinary no toys or anything(he'd die if he found mine) with these other people but I'm like WTF can I get some variety. I have no Idea what to do to get him out of this rut or be more open minded. He doesn't like porn, we don't have oral(cuz I'm not giving if I'm not getting). Helllp
     
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    Oh my :( If he calls you a pervert, and says it's boring, maybe you need someone to mediate. I'd suggest seeing a counselor about these issues.
     
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    sweet heart, I wish you were my wife. I feel like we are dealing with the same issue except for me it's my wife. I love to give her oral but she doesn't like it. She doesn't give me oral because she feels she's not good at it. She's not the best but any oral is better then none. I would love to try new and crazy sex, I mean anything but she seems to be satisfied with the same ol standard positions we have always done. I want more, different crazy sex. I want her to say lets have another woman or man for that matter join us. I want to watch porn with you and try what they are doing on each other. ANYTHING NEW!!!! Help us both! I'm with you Bounty Hunter...
     
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    Ladies and Gentleman
    Truthfully we can't help you.
    Only you can do that, How, Give them 100% of you and you will
    probably get 100% of them.
    Saying it here wont help at all, Say it to them while giving them hugs'
    kisses and other stimulation, And never ask, just love them
    and do it.

    Hiker
     
  5. Barbwire

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    Hiker, you make it sound so simple. What color is the sky on the planet you are from? Really, the giving 100% and getting 100% idea is totally absurd. Yeah, it looks good on paper, but life doesn't work that way, not my life, anyways. It is a sad but true fact, there are many married couples where one of the partners has all the desire and the other partner has none. Sorry for spouting off, but this is a sore subject for me. :(
     
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    thank you Cowboy Lover, well said.
     
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    Well if he says it is boring as well try asking him discretely or when you guys are in bed what else would he like or what would be interesting to him to make it not boring. Maybe if you already get him excited and then talk about it maybe it will loosen up a little bit. Also I think you should just try and initiate something different and see how he responds. Don't be so selfish, maybe try oral on him and if he enjoys as much as any other man I'll bet you he will probably be more than willing to return the favor.
     
  8. bounty hunter

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    For along time it was me giving and not receiving oral. I literally get sick from the taste but I still did it to please him he loves it and asks for it all the time but I finally decided that I am not doing it anymore.

    When I ask what is his fanacy he says he doesn't have one, when I ask him what he likes he says something stupid like I don't know. When I show him stuff on the internet like toys and stuff he gets all wierd on me. I tell him while we are intimate confident boosters, Like how much I love it when he fucks me and how good he makes me feel, and so on and so forth. I ask him what would he like to do, his wish is my command, he gets wild and crazy and says bend over and we do it doggy style and that is the most I can get out of him. I thoght maybe I was putting too much pressure on him to come up with things so I started trying to come up with ideas but then he gets all suspicious and thinks I'm cheating.

    I just want good and exciting sex something to look forward too. I'm not saying that the sex is bad I do have orgasms and sometimes muliple but when I tell him that I would love to do other things he make me feel like something is wrong with me.

    He is very insecure I'm not sure why but he is. Girls always try to talk to him even when I am with him (we are and interacial couple and people never think we are together.) he should know he is not ugly and as predictable as it is it is good.

    Cowboy Lover, Thanks that reply was spot on. But i guess this is one of those situations you have to be in to understand.
     
  9. Clark

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    an idea...

    You write down on a few pink sheets of paper the things you would like to do to spice up the bedroom. He writes down his ideas on blue sheets of paper. You each pick sheets of paper. He needs to give to you, and you need to give to him. As long as it's not damaging to the relationship you should attempt to enjoy the task that you give to your spouse, and so should he.

    If you want, you might choose to give each other the right to choose one slip of paper of your spouse's to be completely removed from the jar, but don't get carried away with this.

    ..just an idea...