Hello. I'm here for help!!

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  1. latincop

    latincop New Member

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    I am 24 years old. A good looking guy and in good shape. I date a lot. Always having sex. However, I have a little problem...I cum within a few minutes. I have to come twice before I can finally last or come during oral then the next round I can last longer. Not every woman wants to deal with that. I need help. Any advice?
     
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    Maybe is you focused on quality instead of quantity, you'd last longer. ???
     
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    Let's clear one big thing up: Are you actually a Latin cop? :brow
     
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    Breathing.

    Have you noticed your breathing getting ALOT faster and harder....

    I find controlling my breathing, even to the point of slowing everything down between us, helps.

    Also relaxing your muscles.

    Maybe try the next date ontop... so your not so tense..
     
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    Many people that I know think men are porn stars able to hold off for until they are ready to cum. If you every watch a porn closely you will notice scene splices and the use of models. The reason for this is males do cum fairly quick, the scene needs to be reshot, and fillers need to be used to cover up the fact that the male has cummed. On average a male will cum within 30 seconds to 2 minutes of penetrating the female.
     
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    Dude, if you can come 2-3 times during a single session, I don't see where that's a problem personally! Spend more time on your woman first, slow it all down, and take advantage of those 2-3 orgasms!

    BD
     
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    Interested to know why "not every woman wants to deal with that" :shrug

    Cumming twice is fine, after all, you get right back in the groove, right?
    Cum during oral? - then next round you can last longer? I'm not sure I see the problem, in that a really good sexual encounter should see a man having the stamina to go for two or three "O's", while seeing to his partner's pleasures, as well.

    Perhaps you might want to incorporate some SERIOUS oral technique on her. That way, you can allow your body to re-group and get ready for round #2... or #3....or #4....:brow
     
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    I've found that stopping right before the point of cumming will help your stamina. If you're on top, slow down or stop before you orgasm and once you regain your composure, start up again. If your woman is on top and she has the self control, have her stop when your breathing becomes deeper. That can be difficult to master....three years and my wife sometimes has trouble stopping.
    But anyway, that should teach your body endurance and soon you'll be able to control when you cum. There's also a trick with focusing your mind on your partner's face instead of what's going on with the penetration. I've found that works for me to last longer. It takes a few weeks or months to notice a difference and I'm sure it takes at least a few years to fully master depending on how much practice you get.
     
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    Thank you to everyone who responded. I feel much more confident now and realize its okay to cum fast sometimes. I will try all of the techniques mentioned to last longer the first time.
     
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    You better just do alot of foreplay then :).
     
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    Try masturbating a few hours before you plan on having sex.