He wouldn't stop during sex when it was hurting me

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by SarahBear2010, Dec 17, 2010.

  1. SarahBear2010

    SarahBear2010 New Member

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    I didn't really want to have sex because all I wanted to do was just hang out and relax with him. We were alone.

    I knew it was a bad idea from the get go as he led me into his mom's room, my 1st thought was WTF and didn't say anything about it to avoid drama. No, he doesn't live with his mom. ​

    He's same age as me. I lost my virginity to him and it was painful everytime. He'd cough up the pain as it's "all in my head" when I told him he was hurting me. We tried different positions and places and it would still hurt. The 1st couple times hurt really bad and he talked me into having sex with him.​

    The last time, I told him I was hurting and he'd tell me not to push him away when the deed was being done. I wasn't really enjoying it. It didn't hurt the whole time and yes, he wears a condom. I don't know why it hurts that much, he's not that big, his penis is probably 7in. when erect.

    I was starting to think he didn't want to have sex with me anymore because it had been over a month. We're just friends, we don't fuck everytime we are together​
     
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    tell him he should be easy and take the time for you to get use to it, and then you will like it and it will feel good. it will be worth it to him also.
     
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    Tell him not to fuck you then, and if that doesn't work it's rape. It shouldn't hurt like that, there are conditions in women that make intercourse painful
     
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    and that would be a even better more direct route.
     
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    Stop fucking him. It hurts, so you need to get checked to find out why. He sounds like an ass and doesnt care if he hurts you or not, so why dont you stop? You are not getting anything pleasureable out of it, and if you lose him as a friend you didnt need him anyway.
     
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    Yeah, I can only echo what people have already said. the guy is an asshole and he doesn't seem to think much of you if he's willing to continually press you for sex and ignore the fact he's hurting you. Start telling him no and mean it. If it's not enjoyable for you, you don't need to be doing it.
     
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    I would go and see your doctor for you to be checked out, see if there is a medical reason for the discomfort. I would also tell him to back of till it is sorted, I can't stand people that force a situation esp sex. if he won't then don't see him anymore....

    If he is any kind of friend he would care about your wealthfare and happiness not about his dick :yell
     
  8. Dragon_Fire

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    By the description of his "technique" it sounds like it was rape, not love making. That is most likely why it was hurting. No need for a doctor to tell you that.

    Go find yourself a real man who knows how to treat a woman.
     
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    I agree with the others: It is technically rape when you tell him to stop and he doesn't.

    As for the fact that it hurts you, it reminds me of my first time. I was really nervous and it hurt and he couldn't get inside me despite trying different ways and different positions. In the end we gave up. With my next boyfriend I was a lot more at ease and comfortable. We had sex with no problem and it didn't hurt at all.

    So, I think the reason it hurts you may just be because you are dry and not relaxed. Perhaps you could try using lubrication next time, if you still want to have sex with this person. But I think a better thing to do would be to find a man who will take time to make you feel comfortable and excited before he tries to enter you and then you will be able to experience how good sex can feel.
     
  10. Alwayslearningsex

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    Things to ask:
    Are you lubricated.... wet? Using lubricant if need be?
    Not all vaginas are the same, some can take more. If yours is smaller, not so deep, mister fucker needs to refrain from going all the way in
    Or any other man that is. Always ask your man to start slow ans gradually until both of you know how your parts interact together.
    If you are not able to take it all then here is a little trick myself would love you to do on me: Grab his penis and your hand gets in the way, the penis can't go all the way. Not only you do this to protect yourself, you also make a guy feel pretty good, a handjob, you are in control of your grip and how much you stimulate him, how long you want to go.
    As a guy I love going all the way when orgasming, leaving a bit out takes away the experience but any considerate toward you should work WITH you, not like a selfish fucker. Anything else you need to stop having sex with that guy.
     
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    I agree with everyone, the guy is obviously quite insensitive. However, if you experience continuous pain from intercourse, then there's a bigger problem here. Your PC or vaginal muscles may be weak and need to be exercised. You can try doing some Kegel Exercises to strengthen them and make intercourse more pleasurable.
     
  12. Dragon_Fire

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    I personally found that the best cure for painful intercourse was to change lovers. However if pain persists maybe medical assistant maybe needed.