Hi everyone, I'm Mandy and I'm new here. I'm really happy to see so many other sex-positive people in a forum like this. I'm looking forward to reading more from all of you! What led me here is a problem that I've been having lately. My partner will not perform oral sex on me. He did when we first started dating 5 months ago, but only a few times, not on a regular basis at all. Now he absolutely refuses. The other night I was nearly begging and he still wouldn't. He says this is because he had a bad experience one time when he was going down on me. Here's the deal: I get VERY wet when I'm aroused. Like, dripping down my legs wet. Now, I've been around the block a bit (I call myself a recovering slut--most of my previous partners were in late high school and freshman year of college, very long story that I could get into later), and not one guy has ever complained about how wet I get. In fact, most really enjoy it. And I've never met a guy so steadfastly against performing cunnilingus on me. So the bad experience for my partner was when I was on top of him and he was giving me oral, and some of my wetness dripped into his mouth and hit him in the back of the throat, triggering a gag reflex. He paused and laughed about it at the time, but now he cites this as the reason why he won't go down on me, even if I'm on my back and nothing will drip on him. I go down on him on a regular basis (almost every time we have sex), and his lack of reciprocation is getting REALLY old. I'm getting very frustrated, and we actually argued about this the other night. He says he gets queasy at the thought of going down on me (he's had some stomach problems recently, and tends to psych himself out when it comes to queasiness, making him feel even sicker), and refuses to even try. I'm so frustrated that I wonder if I can even fix this or if I should just learn to live without. Help me, please!!