He wont give out

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  1. WantingIt

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    Been with me man for a few years now and lately - 9 - 12 mths or so - he really dont wanna give me any sex.
    I no idea why this is and i feel really hurt when he says no as it makes me feel like i dont do it for him anymore and when i ask him this he says he dunno what is wrong and that it is him.

    i just think that it is unusual for the male to say no to sex and it doesnt seem to worry him at all about going without.

    it is really starting to get to me and i really love him lots

    and they wonder why people go elsewhere to have our needs fulfilled!!
     
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    He could be depressed. I was going through some depression a while back and it had major affect on my sex drive.
     
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    cant believe i actually got a 2minute quicky off him this morning!!
    wasnt even long enough to enjoy!!
     
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    What is it that you're trying to ask us?
     
  5. Alwayslearningsex

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    I don't like telling bad news BUT these are possibilities here:
    Either there is a problem in the relationship from his end .... I been there.
    Depression or something affecting him. Illness, etc.
    Or some issue you have to give him slack but have him tell you.
    Is he having his fun elsewhere and not feeling like it once back with you?
    Is he feeling ???? within the relationship? (whatever feeling or impression)

    Sorry but these are hard questions sometmes necessary to go through.
     
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    I like 2 minute quickies every now and again.. makes me feel desirable and used :p

    Depression seems to have a great effect on my sex drive I feel like just laying down and crying all night. I don't feel like initiating it at all. I think you need to talk it out and ask what is the matter?
     
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    You need to sit him down and have a talk. COMMUNICATE....COMMUNICATE......COMMUNICATE....!!!!
     
  8. Texas_Red

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    This

    And this. If my partner suddenly wasn't interested in me and it went on and there were half-assed excuses like "I don't know, it's just me" I'd be very suspicious, to be honest. People don't just suddenly lose interest like that. I sincerely hope it's just depression or stress, and not infidelity.
     
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    Sit down and talk to him. Tell him you love him and tell him how you feel. He could be depressed or there maybe something more serious. Either way it is importnat for both of you to communicate and get to the bottom of the situation so you can either move past it or seek help.

    As frustrating as this is - unless he is inclined to open relationships I boubt that he will appreciate the thought that you may go elsewhere - that is likely to make the whole thing much worse.

    I couldn't agree more :)
     
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    There's a chance he might not feel "up" for it, maybe he has ED. Try turning him on by wearing something sexy, and try stroking his dick out of nowhere. Show him that you want it, if all else fails, ASK HIM!!
     
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    Wow 2 minutes is very short but can get your mornings started, I prefer at least a half hour cause I can't really seem to cum before that anymore.
     
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    Wanting, how is your relationship outside of the bedroom?
     
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    Always the first rule of a healthy relationship.:tup